The Brave Choice to Light the Flames of Kindness


There are many things that I do not know or understand. I do not claim to comprehend all the issues and complexities of life, but I am terribly worried for and about our human race. It appears that our capacity and thrill to hurt, wound and destroy each other is growing by the minute! I don’t know much, but I do know that we can choose to use our freewill to push back against hate and unkindness. It’s not easy, but in the face of all the anger, pessimism, bitterness, evil, meanness and darkness we are surrounded by every day, WE CAN MAKE THE BRAVE CHOICE TO LIGHT THE FLAMES OF KINDNESS!

I am not naive; I know that situations in life are not always clear cut. I am not so simplistic as to expect that every situation is cut and dry or easy to deal with or to find solutions to. There are some situations in my own life which I am still trying to figure out how to handle and I have to make a deliberate effort and choice to either react positively or simply stay away until I can deal with them in a better, more positive fashion.  However, I do know that we make our choices, and they come with consequences. I do know that my attitude towards people and how I treat them matters! I dare to be idealistic and brave enough to believe that we can love better instead of hating, we can be kind instead of unkind, if we make the brave choice to do so! We are humans! Our solution to our personal fears, insecurities and anger DO NOT have to result in the destruction of another human being.

Let’s stop for a minute and take a really good look around us.  What has hate, stigma, prejudice, finger-pointing, unkindness, down-putting, slandering, division and stereotyping done for humanity? Because we do not agree with someone, their character, their behavior, their race, their creed, their lifestyle, the way they talk and walk, should that justify that we hate them and treat them like dirt? I DON’T BELIEVE SO! Many times we ask to be understood and accepted, yet we do not do the same for others.  In my hurt, anger and confusion, I have found it to be wiser to take a deep breath, hold my tongue, which comes with a lot of practice, and walk away from a person or a situation I do not understand or know how to handle. My pain, anger and insecurities are not a license to inflict wounds on other people!

I have my own personal thoughts, beliefs and opinions about many things, but should that compel me to despise others who have a difference in opinion? My choice should not be to subscribe and enlist other people to hate and despise other people just because we differ. Can we be brave enough to stop hating and instead be brave and courageous enough to give love and show kindness to our fellow human beings? It’s not easy, but it’s not impossible! Hate, meanness and unkindness are cheap commodities, found everywhere, but kindness and love are hard to come by, they are not cheap and common.

I understand that sometimes we have to have uncomfortable conversations, but how we have the conversation matters! Is it from a heart and mindset of searching for wisdom and knowledge on how to handle a person or situation in a kinder, gentler more loving and understanding manner, and towards creating peace? Or are we just itching to whisper evil and malign another to the next available ear, and sow a destructive opinion and thought in the next easily influenced heart and mind? Are we thriving on destroying, slandering and degrading others, planning their demise, obsessed with pulling them down, or are we having the conversation in order to work towards unity, collaboration and peace? Some of us will insist that being nasty is our right, and that leads me wonder.

  • How has hate and wrecking another soul assisted us?
  • How has such behavior, such mindsets served humanity or set us free?
  • Do we derive real joy and real peace from such behavior?
  • Does it chase our personal demons away and set us free from them?
  • Does it bring us healing from our depression and insecurities?
  • Does it liberate and relieve us from our deepest fears, misplaced and misdirected anger?
  • Does it take away the darkness that torments us from within?

 The answer is plain and simple, NO, to all of the above!

Do not let kindness and truth leave you; Bind them around your neck, Write them on the tablet of your heart. Proverbs 3:3 (NASB)

More than ever, our human race needs all the love and kindness we can muster.

Will you be brave enough to light the flames of kindness?



Developing Quiet Power, Peaceful Confidence


Multitudes of us on this earth, but who are we truly? What have we really become? What do we really stand for?

The state of Self-actualization, Quiet Power, Peaceful Confidence do not come cheap. It is divine. It is born out of extremely tough, agonizing and deep soul-searching situations. It takes practice and deliberate effort at developing a mindset that works towards love, peace and kindness.  It takes allowing our spirit, mind, and soul, being chiseled daily. While painful and agonizing, and completely going against our carnal nature, Quiet Power, Peaceful Confidence seeks to develop the True, Spiritual and Beautiful Self hidden within us. It asks you and me to look within and tap into the spiritual part of our being and when we do so, in time, with much practice, as we tune and tap into our own spirit, we develop the ability to take our eyes off other people, take deep confident breaths and do that which is the opposite to unkind situations. We can control ourselves and our reactions towards others and what they do and say to us. We can develop peaceful strength to deflect the terrible things that are done to us. It is difficult and does not happen overnight, but it can be done, minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day, week by week, month by month, and year by year.  Spiritually for me it takes God to take over my carnal nature, and in my tangible experience, it works.

Self-actualization, Quiet Power, Peaceful Confidence come from deliberately digging deep within and HONESTLY facing who and what we have become, and making a deep quiet determination to become a better person who is capable of withstanding others in a peaceful way. Quiet Power, Peaceful Confidence, is developing the power to forgive, and the strength to genuinely offer a helping hand even when we ourselves are hurtingIt is the willingness to create a positive, peaceful and healing atmosphere, in the face of unkind and hostile situations. This is not mentally or emotionally easy but when we decide to tap into the True Self, which I believe is created by Divinity, we develop the Quiet Power, Peaceful Confidence, and ability to create positive effects in what has every potential to naturally become negative, destructive and unkind.  A lot of  how we react depends on our spiritual beliefs or source, if indeed we have any at all.

Think on these questions.

  • Where and who do you turn to for the supernatural?
  • Who and what do you draw peace and strength from?
  • Do you have a spiritual realm you draw from, that you can use as your comfort?
  • Do you have a spiritual source that you can delight in, that is your firm foundation when everything around you is falling apart?
  • What will keep you steady and still when everything around you is spinning out of control?
  • What or who will keep you intact when all hell breaks loose?

 Now ask yourself:

  •  With all my knowledge, intellectual power, technological know-how, what have I really become?
  • To what or who am I appending my soul, spirit, and life?How do I nurture my mind?
  • What do I fill my mind with?
  • Who and what do I gravitate towards for peace, wisdom, strength, courage and joy?
  • What images do I worship? What do they do for me?
  • What or who motivates me, inspires me, steers and directs my motives and intents?
  • What do I really stand for?
  • What does my foundation really look like?
  • Am I grounded in anything? If so, what does it look like?
  • What does it really do to me and/or for me?

Nine out of ten chances we will manage our emotions and channel our choices and decisions from whatever or whoever directs us spiritually, mentally and emotionally.

Matthew 5 New International Version (NIV)

He said:

“Blessed are the poor in spirit,
    for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are those who mourn,
    for they will be comforted.
Blessed are the meek,
    for they will inherit the earth.
Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness,
    for they will be filled.
Blessed are the merciful,
    for they will be shown mercy.
Blessed are the pure in heart,
    for they will see God.
Blessed are the peacemakers,
    for they will be called children of God.
10 Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness,
    for theirs is the kingdom of heaven