Evolve into Healing

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It is only the water that is spilled, the calabash is not broken ~ Mauritanian Proverb

Yes, life has dealt you many blows, but the fight is not over, you are still here. Yes, you are out of breath and giving up, but you are still breathing. Yes, you have lost many things, even people, but yet here you are. Yes, you lost your job, but you still carry your gifts, talents and skills. Yes, he walked away, but you are still fearfully made. Yes, she walked away, but you are still wonderfully made. Yes, the mistakes of the past are catching up with you and weighing you down, but you can shake them off and soar.

Evolve into healing! Only the water is spilled. Don’t drown in it. Your heart is raw and hurting, don’t say it is over. Your soul is ripped and aching, bounce back! Your spirit is shaken up, spread your wings. Your substance, your worth, your value are who you are, and not the water that spilled. The life experiences that made the water spill in your life came to chisel you into a man or a woman of character. They came to shape you, and conform you into recognizing and understanding who you truly are and direct you into your, purpose and destiny. Your future, your new beginning await you. You have not scratched the surface yet. Wake up from the weight, of self-pity. Rise up, from the dust of doubt, fear and anxiety. Steady yourself and shake them off. Find your feet, find your wings.

But those who trust in the LORD for help will find their strength renewed. They will rise on wings like eagles; they will run and not get weary; they will walk and not grow weak. ~Isaiah 40:31 (Good News Translation)

Your life experiences spilled over, in the worst way possible, but you can fight to remain intact, spirit mind, body and soul. You do not have to succumb to falling into pieces. You do not have to lose your essence or waste your substance. You do not have to lose yourself, your soul, your mind or your spirit and yield to nothingness. Even out of nothing a thing can be created. Out of your pain and tragedy, beauty can be created.

Take your uncertainty and build something wonderful. Take your loss and create a blessing. Take your emptiness and birth something lovely into being. Take your heartache and evolve into healing. Take your agony and create joy. Take your pain and create sunshine. Take your darkness and create light.

Evolve into healing!



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What place do you escape into?  What habits do you hide behind? What brought on the escapist mindset? What pain? What agony? What abuse? What violation? What tragedy? what mistake? what guilt? What shame? What self-disgust? Which of these brought this mindset on you? Which of them made you create and develop self-destructive vices?

What masks and facades do you put on?

What is your ultimate distraction from your pain, fears, anxiety and insecurities?

What is it that you do to escape from your grief and heartache?

What is it that you do to get away from the reality and truth of your agony?

What fantasy do you transport yourself into, if only for a moment, to escape the reality of your situation?

What daydreaming mode do you transcend into, to avoid the truth of your condition?

How long will you continue like this? What will it take to jolt you out of it?

When will you choose to accept healing? When will you say yes to being wholesome?

Will you not fight for your life? After reading these simple, yet penetrating questions, will you drown yourself in a alcohol, street drugs, prescription drugs, sex, fantasy, anger, bitterness, anxiety and self-pity? What will you drown yourself in dear friend? Or will you make a decision to stop and rethink your escapism?

I am sure that you have discovered that none of your escapist methods and habits have really worked, at least not to the extent where they give you a clean slate to heal and start your life over again. Escapism is far from reality, far from the truth, and does not bring you the lasting peace, joy and love that you so hungrily crave and desire. It is most likely hurting you and those around you. Get rid of it.

I hope that you will decide to stop escaping and instead, make the decision to gradually change, and live a fulfilling life; one where you have come to terms with whatever it is that is tormenting you. Face that torment, deal with it and lay it down, before it wrecks further havoc in, and damage, your life. Escapism, pretending that the pain, torment, guilt, shame, grief, loneliness and emptiness do not exist, and that the accident and trauma did not really happen, will not do you any good dear friend. It will not bring you lasting relief. It is doing you more damage than good. Lay it to rest, breathe and live!

28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”  Matthew 11:28-30 (NIV)

Rethink your escapism. Confront your pain, second by second, minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day, week by week, month by month, and year by year, until you overcome. You can do so, and it is possible, with God’s assistance.


What Really is the Matter?

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What really is the matter? Why are you all bent out of shape, hurting yourself and hurting others? What has you all rattled, raging and slamming things around? Why are you so anxious, angry and spiraling from wrath to depression? What has gotten into you, or, what got to you? Who got to you? What was taken away from you? What were you dealt with? What did you have to suffer in silence? What continues to bring you down daily? What has you chained down to darkness? What has clipped your wings and broken your spirit?

Seems like every day you have to find something to control, someone to berate and belittle. Seems like you always have to pick on someone, you always have to change things around, and things and people always have to be the way you want them to be, otherwise you transform into a stormy mood swings, talk with a condescending tone at others, and look down on them as if to shrivel them into irrelevant pieces. Everyone is stupid, everything is stupid, no one is as knowledgeable and as intelligent as you, and you and only you has all the answers. What really is the matter? Get to the root of it before it completely cripples you, and destroys every good thing you set your eyes on, and lay your hands on.

Something is wrong dear friend. If your high is to condemn everything and everyone around you, something is not right. Something is extremely wrong if your pleasure is to bring others down, and make them feel small. Something is really, really wrong when nothing, no one, is ever good enough. There is a serious problem when your fix is to place others under your feet to make yourself feel better. The truth is, you do not feel any better, at all. You can act like you do, even convince yourself that it feels good, but where has that gotten you? How has that exorcised your demons? It’s probably left you drained, alone and lonely. How about redirecting your energy towards why you are the way you are, be mindful that you are that way, and conscientiously, bit by bit, take care of it?

What happened to you? Who hurt you? What is the healing you need? Why are you pulling yourself down, and bringing everyone you meet, down with you? What is the satisfaction you gain from punishing yourself and others, with your pain? Is your rationale that others should pay the price for your demons, even though they had nothing to do with the events of your life eating up your soul, depleting your spirit, and tormenting your mind? What is your wound, injury, suffering, distress? Is your rationale that you deserve the throbbing ache and the burden that you bear? Or are you too afraid to face it; does it hurt too much, and so you hurt yourself, you hurt others?

For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. -2 Timothy 1:7 (KJB)

What really is the matter? Get rid of it before it takes you to a place of no return!