Faith Too Illogical Too Irrational

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Illogical and Irrational Faith. That is what many of us lack but what many of us need. Stop rationalizing and ask. I know what the science says, but ask. I get it, it all seems useless and futile but press in, press on and ask. Faith is your gift. Faith is for all. Asking is for everyone. Stop the logic. Block the intellect, let go of the science, test illogical, irrational faith, and ask. Stop trying to do the math. Stop trying to fix the puzzle. You are out of your league, but your pride and ego have reared their heads. You must fix this yourself! Stop that.

Admit you do not know. Admit you do not have an inkling of what to do or say, because this one, this time, is beyond everything you ever learnt or known. It is beyond all the books you ever read, the pods you listened to, the YouTube videos you watched, the Facebook pages you scanned through, and advice from friends and family. This one needs some divine intervention, not the voice of society, school, college, research, the internet, and human logic. Not that they are bad but you are in need of something, someone divine. This particular situation demands that you ask in faith and believe that God, {yes, HE IS REAL), will answer you. Trust me, the way He answers will be well beyond your logic, thought or imagination. It will be well beyond any solution, logic, reason or results you would have come up with on your own or through the wisdom and knowledge of Man. Stop being your own obstruction and ask. Stop getting in your own way and ask.

Is there anything wrong with logic, common sense, science, college or research, or good advice from family, friends, colleagues, professionals and experts? No, of course not! But you and I both know that there are matters that are beyond human intelligence and human fixing. As intelligent as we are, some matters and issues of life only divinity, not humanity, can solve. Some are too deep, too complicated and too embarrassing. Few and far between will we find folks who are willing to hold our hand and walk through the fire with us. 

Here is the question. How deep is your frustration? How deep is your pain? How deep is your agony? How long have you waited for an answer? What has this unsolved problem done to your life? What will this unsolved problem continue to do to you? What effects will it have on you and your loved ones? What effects will it have on your work, your dreams and your purpose in life? How long will this problem hold you back and how deeply will it trap you and hold you hostage? The longer you wait the worse it gets, so stop the logic, stop the reasoning and ask already.

Let your faith be too illogical. Let your faith be too irrational.

Value your life, soul, and spirit enough, forget about pride and ego, and ask.

Value your life, soul and spirit enough, forget about your public image, and ask.

Value your life, soul and spirit enough, forget about your title, and ask.

Value your life, soul and spirit enough, forget about your facades and masks, and ask.

Value your life, soul and spirit enough, forget about your wise plans, and ask.

Value your life, soul and enough, forget about trying to prove something, and ask.

Are you too dignified to ask? Ask for help.

Are you rich, are you poor? Ask for help.

Are you accepted, are you rejected? Ask for help.

Are you feeling too unworthy? Ask for help.

Are you feeling as though you are too far gone? Ask for help.

Have others told you not to bother? Ask for help.

Do you think it’s useless to ask? Ask for help.

Is it too irrational, too illogical to ask God for an answer, response, or solution? Ask anyway! Be irrational, be illogical. Shake off and unwrap yourself from a false sense of human security. Apply irrational, illogical faith.

We all need to ask. We will all find ourselves in these immeasurable moments of pain, frustration, illness, confusion, trauma and hurt, where no one can assist, heal or uplift us. In those moments, whether we like it or not, we will need the One who created us, who knew us before we were formed in our mothers’ wombs. We will need the One who completes and makes us whole. We will need the One who sees the beginning from the end and the end from the beginning. We will need the one who makes a way where there appears to be no way. We will need the One who makes the crooked path straight, in whose presence our mountains of problems melt like wax. We will need the One who at His Word, the oceans of problems part and create a path into victory for us. We will need the One who does not care where we have been, what we have done, who others say or think we are, who likes us or doesn’t like us. The One who loves us more than we can love ourselves, more than others can ever love us. We will need the One who sees our faith and does not leave us hanging but acts on it in ways that we cannot put into words.

Matthew 15:21-28 New International Version (NIV)

The Faith of a Canaanite Woman

21 Leaving that place, Jesus withdrew to the region of Tyre and Sidon.22 A Canaanite woman from that vicinity came to him, crying out, “Lord, Son of David, have mercy on me! My daughter is demon-possessed and suffering terribly.”

23 Jesus did not answer a word. So his disciples came to him and urged him, “Send her away, for she keeps crying out after us.”

24 He answered, “I was sent only to the lost sheep of Israel.”

25 The woman came and knelt before him. “Lord, help me!” she said.

26 He replied, “It is not right to take the children’s bread and toss it to the dogs.”

27 “Yes it is, Lord,” she said. “Even the dogs eat the crumbs that fall from their master’s table.”

28 Then Jesus said to her, “Woman, you have great faith! Your request is granted.” And her daughter was healed at that moment.

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The Chiselers Will Come

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One of the toughest things in life is to face who and what we have become. It is so much easier to point at, and blame other people, even when we know deep down that that does not take the pain, shame and guilt away. I have learnt that there is genuine mental, emotional and spiritual liberty, if I just confess to myself that I am the problem, or that I have a problem to solve and that it matters how I solve it. How I solve it will determine the outcome. Therefore how can I solve it so that the outcome is favorable to others and to me? Typically, we humans like to solve the problem in a selfish way, the way that it will benefit just us, and not others involved. It’s our quick survival instinct. But we should grow bigger and better than that. Others matter.

Usually the problem is a flaw in our character and our outlook on life, our judgement and perception, not reality, of other people. We all at some point carry unhealthy mindsets and opinions that have to be chiseled out of us. We hate the chiselers because they show us the truth about who we are, who we truly have become, but who we could transform into, a better person. It is extremely difficult to become the better person. It takes me introversion, self-permitting slow agonizing self-reflection of what is true and what is not. The deeper I search within me, the better I learn the lesson, the more broken I become, the more ego I lose, the freer I become. If I can be silent for one quick moment and not say the first thing that comes to my mind, if I can just hold back and control myself, walk away and ask myself the selfless questions, how should I respond, should I respond at all, how could I have prevented this, how can I handle it better, should I just let it go, or should I confront it, and if I do, how should I go about doing that so that it does not escalate, even if it means that it would be at my own expense?

The chiselers of life will come. Sometimes they trickle in, sometimes they are a storm, a rushing river, a massive wave. Some will be clear and apparent, while others will blindside us, pull the rug from under us and knock us down to our knees. Some will cause us to weep deep pouring tears, some will cause us to laugh like mad men in pain and frustration, and some will make us scream silently in agony, with no words to describe the torment within.

None of us can avoid or prevent the chiselers from entering our lives, but all of us can choose how we handle them. We can drown in them, we can develop unhealthy coping mechanisms, or we can handle them step by step, layer by layer, and emerge as beautiful beings, who have allowed adversity to bring out the best in them.

The chiselers will come at different stages of our lives, whether or not we are ready or prepared for them, and are unable to receive or accept them. Their timing is always terrible, and they do not seem to care about their effect on our lives. We have the power to decide and choose how we handle them, and who they transform us into. We can determine to come out beautiful in the end, or angry, bitter, snide, arrogant, insecure, cynical and manipulative, blaming others and never taking the reins of your life to turn things around for the better.

When chiselers come my way, I have learnt to turn to God, my creator, for grace, wisdom, courage, patience and humility. After all, He knows me better than I know myself. You cannot take a BMW to be fixed by Toyota, or vice versa, so take me to God, any day, any time, with whatever it is, He will fix me, set me straight, and put me on the right path. It is not easy when my carnal nature rises up in a situation and I have to tame her down and ask the Holy Spirit to give me strength to hold it together and not respond the way that I would truly like to. It takes power from within to keep silent when I want to give a piece of my mind. It takes courage to walk away when I want to confront. It takes humility to realize and admit that a particular chiseler has revealed to me that there are areas of my character that I still need to work on. It takes wisdom to know what to say, when to say it and how to say it. It takes deep understanding and mercy to see where another person is coming from and what might be causing their behavior. These qualities do not come naturally to us. They are developed and nurtured with deliberation.

The chiselers will come. God help us make the right decisions so that we can come out the better and not the worst when they chisel us. They are here for our good, not for our demise. They bring the lessons we need to learn. They come to remove the ugliness within us, and create kindness, patience, wisdom and understanding, qualities that bring us and fill us with peace, joy, love and strength and quiet confidence

The chiselers will come. It is better to yield to them and ask the question why are they here, than to resist. Resistance only makes it worse.

Yield to your chiselers, ask the honest questions, embrace the true answers and become free indeed.

 

Take the Risk and Enter

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Take a step of faith, take the risk and enter. The worst that can happen is this.

You sing for joy.

You dance away your troubles.

You laugh like never before.

You cry your deepest tears.

You clap with sheer joy.

You express and experience uninhibited love.

You heal within and without.

Your problems melt away.

Your confusion turns into wisdom.

Your fear turns into courage.

Your prison walls break into pieces.

You find significance.

You realize how valuable and precious you truly are.

You recognize the beauty and power that lie within you.

You treasure every breath you breathe.

You appreciate every single day that you are alive.

You discover that you do not have to go it all alone.

You realize that there is One Who loves you more than you love yourself. God.

Those are all the worst things that can happen, so, enter. Take the risk. Find out for yourself. Don’t take my word for it.

Discover the breath of life.

Discover the rivers of living water.

Discover what it means to be free indeed.

Discover what it means to have life more abundantly.

Discover what it means to be VALUED!

Go ahead, take the risk, and enter. You’ve waited this long. You are still here, and He is still waiting. It’s really alright what others think, don’t worry about it. Imagine if you hesitate, and not enter because of other people’s opinions, and then one day you discover that they took the risk and entered. After all that talk and shaming you, they actually took the risk and entered, and received what you could have received, if you had just shut your ears to their mockery and taken the same risk and had entered into God’s Presence. And now here they are, enjoying His love, His peace, His joy, His deliverance and His divine blessings.

But you are still here, so take the risk and enter, my friend. It really is never too late, dear one. Enter into His Presence and breathe.

Breathe in divine strength.

Breathe in divine ability.

Breathe in divine peace.

Breathe in divine wisdom.

Breathe in divine courage.

Take the risk and enter into His Presence

There is nothing to lose, there is everything to gain!

The God Who Is Unashamed of Us

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ADAPT. CONNECT. ATTACH.

More than ever in our world, we need something, someone, much bigger than us, bigger than our imagination, bigger than our situation, our tears, agony and frustration. Someone who can do more than what we ask for, think or imagine. Someone who can give us more than what we seek.

We need someone who understands true power, abundance and prosperity of the spirit, the mind, the heart, the soul and the spirit. We need someone who can carry us beyond our trauma, agony and suffering; who give us unimaginable peace and unspeakable joy.

We need the living God who understands and makes a way where there seems to be no way.

We need the living God who makes the crooked paths straight.

We need the living God who delivers and redeems.

We need the living God who brings salvation into every situation we face in life.

We need the living God who begins a thing and finishes it.

We need the living God who meets us at the point of our deepest need.

We need the living God who turns our mourning into dancing, our sorrows into joy, our shame into honor.

We need the living God who turns our dirt into beauty, and our guilt into deliverance and liberty.

We need the living God who turns our torment into rejoicing, who brings laughter into our mouths and singing to our tongues.

We need the living God who says come unto me, you who are heavy burdened.

We need the living God who keeps His word, and upholds the world by the power of His word.

We need the living God who is more than able to keep His Word and His promises.

We need the living God who can love us as we truly are and transform us into the beauty that we truly are in and through Him.

We need the living God who can actually break our prison doors, the ones that keep us mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically crippled.

We need the God who is unashamed of us; who we are, where we have been or what we have done.

Are you ready for Him? He is not ashamed of you.

Are you ready for His unconditional love? Know what He loves you.

Are you ready for His faithfulness? He will see you through, my friend.

Are you ready for His grace? He is quick to bless.

Are you ready for His transformation power? He is the greatest healer there is.

Attach to the beauty of the living God, and know the difference. All you have to do is ask.

Adapt your life to His life giving power, and experience Him for yourself.

Connect with Him and trust Him, He is the way maker. He will not disappoint.

Fix the mystery of your problems to His mystery of solving them.

Make the difference, for your life, the lives of your loved ones and the lives of the world.

Attach, connect, adapt, to the beauty and life-saving power of God.  Taste and see, look up, to the God who is unashamed of us and ask for His help.

Evolve into Healing

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It is only the water that is spilled, the calabash is not broken ~ Mauritanian Proverb

Yes, life has dealt you many blows, but the fight is not over, you are still here. Yes, you are out of breath and giving up, but you are still breathing. Yes, you have lost many things, even people, but yet here you are. Yes, you lost your job, but you still carry your gifts, talents and skills. Yes, he walked away, but you are still fearfully made. Yes, she walked away, but you are still wonderfully made. Yes, the mistakes of the past are catching up with you and weighing you down, but you can shake them off and soar.

Evolve into healing! Only the water is spilled. Don’t drown in it. Your heart is raw and hurting, don’t say it is over. Your soul is ripped and aching, bounce back! Your spirit is shaken up, spread your wings. Your substance, your worth, your value are who you are, and not the water that spilled. The life experiences that made the water spill in your life came to chisel you into a man or a woman of character. They came to shape you, and conform you into recognizing and understanding who you truly are and direct you into your, purpose and destiny. Your future, your new beginning await you. You have not scratched the surface yet. Wake up from the weight, of self-pity. Rise up, from the dust of doubt, fear and anxiety. Steady yourself and shake them off. Find your feet, find your wings.

But those who trust in the LORD for help will find their strength renewed. They will rise on wings like eagles; they will run and not get weary; they will walk and not grow weak. ~Isaiah 40:31 (Good News Translation)

Your life experiences spilled over, in the worst way possible, but you can fight to remain intact, spirit mind, body and soul. You do not have to succumb to falling into pieces. You do not have to lose your essence or waste your substance. You do not have to lose yourself, your soul, your mind or your spirit and yield to nothingness. Even out of nothing a thing can be created. Out of your pain and tragedy, beauty can be created.

Take your uncertainty and build something wonderful. Take your loss and create a blessing. Take your emptiness and birth something lovely into being. Take your heartache and evolve into healing. Take your agony and create joy. Take your pain and create sunshine. Take your darkness and create light.

Evolve into healing!

Interview and Writing Tips

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About: I am a seeker and believer that we can determine to become more loving, kinder, and more patient towards each other. I hope that my reflections and workbook on, The Reminder: Quiet Power, Peaceful Confidence will provide a beacon of hope and inner peace to those who are struggling, who are lost, and who are ready to make a change.

How did you do research for your book? I did not research my book. I was actually making some soup for my husband and while stirring the pot, I felt a strange but golden stirring in my belly. I first ignored it, but it kept coming back, so I stopped and I questioned, “What is it?” And words and sentences started bubbling up inside me, so I stopped stirring and grabbed whatever piece of paper I could and started writing the words and sentences bubbling up inside me. That night, in between cutting onions, getting juice for my children, stirring the soup pot, The Reminder, Quiet Power, Peaceful Confidence was birthed. Unknown to me, all these years, I had conceived and was pregnant with a book; it had quietly grown inside me through my life experiences, without my knowledge, and was ready to be delivered. And so I pushed through the contractions, and here we are, with a book to assist myself and others to become better people.

In your book you make a reference to….   how did you come up with this idea? So I know that many have described things like writer’s block etc…but I never experienced that. I simply wrote and wrote as the words and sentences flowed, and then when they stopped, I stopped writing. When they started again, I wrote again. Any time any day anywhere, I just grabbed something to scribble on so that I would not forget. I simply remained humble and open to the message coming out of me and wrote. I didn’t question, analyze or try to be complicated and smarter or more intelligent than the message. I accepted and stayed true to it. I recognized its voice and purpose and stayed with it. The only real struggle I had was the title of the book; it kept changing as I tried to give it a title. It was only when I waited for the words and sentences inside me to stop bubbling up, and the message was completely birthed, that I was able to know what the actual title of the book was.

What made you write a book about…? I did not plan this book. I had no idea that it existed. I was making soup for my family, lol.

Where do you get inspiration for your stories? I have learned to wait for God to speak, and become familiar with when He starts talking. Soon as He does, I start writing or typing. I don’t waste time. The books that I write are not from my intellect or any self-proclaimed wisdom. They are here to bless me and bless others at a deeper level, and in a way that is divine, beyond mine and our humanity. I have learnt to walk in, and walk with Him, and learnt that He has a to do, a place and a time for everything, and if I stay centered in Him, I will sense what to do, when to do it, how to do it, and with whom if necessary, and then whether or not I understand it all, it does not matter to me anymore because I have grown to recognize and observe that He does everything with wisdom and unconditional love. If I let Him work through me, I become a better person, and I write deeper

There are many books out there about….What makes yours different? The Reminder, Quiet Power, Peaceful Confidence, encourages us to, quote, “Strive to make the brave choice. Look at the root of the problems and troubles and torment raging within you. Take your eyes off what others are doing and focus on cleaning yourself up and growing beautifully”.

The book speaks to the core of our being, assists us with looking in the mirror, and gives us the courage to look within, and the power to no matter, figure out our own identity in God, and be unafraid to become that beautiful person. It states, “Do not allow fear to make you become or act like anyone else but your better self”.

But it does not stop there, it tells us, to not hate what we don’t understand.

Therefore, The Reminder, Quiet Power Peaceful Confidence, embraces all people, all humanity, without judgment. Anyone can pick it up, because it is completely inclusive. The book’s main interest is for each and every one of us, regardless of where we are in life, where we have been, what has been done to us, our own mistakes, to become better people as individuals, and utilize the beauty that we have discovered within us to buoy up and uplift others. Quote, “Quiet Power, Peaceful Confidence, is an art because it takes a lot of practice. It is a gift because we benefit from it, and so do others”.

Do you ever get writer’s block? What helps you overcome it? Stay calm; be in tune with the message. Be authentic, be real, don’t immediately try to edit and fine tune, just write, and write and give the words a chance to flow freely. Don’t try to fix the words and message. Let the message remain true to itself. Don’t try to assert yourself in the message, just let it be. You will know when, what and how to tweak and clean up, what to add, remove or change, when the words and message are done flowing. Learn to walk away when the words and message stop flowing, take your mind off them and go do other things. They will give you nudge when they are ready for you to write again. Keep it simple and don’t stress yourself and create the writer’s block. Enjoy the moment and experience of writing, it’s golden, not dark and burdensome. Don’t struggle to impress. Breathe. Breathe.

Do you have another profession besides writing? Yes.

How long have you been writing? Since 2015

What is your next project? I am conceiving it, have an idea, but not ready to discuss it. I have to give it its own time to grow, and when it’s time reaches to be birthed, then we’ll all know about it. But not before then.

What genre do you write and why? I guess the world calls it religion, but personally I do not call it a religion. I believe that religion is man-made, but that God is more of a spiritual, emotional and mental personal relationship. God is not religion, He is a healer, a restorer and a transformer, but so many have been led to believe otherwise and have not had the joy of experiencing His UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. Many, in fact, do not believe in His existence. So when I write, I do not preach, I do not try to persuade, but I ask people to do the research and test God themselves. I ask them to find out for themselves. Unfortunately, those of us who believe in God have not conveyed His beauty to the world and His love for the world. All people hear is how terrible, horrifying and judgmental He is. So while I don’t preach, I talk about Him, I introduce Him, and it’s left to the reader, no matter who they are, where they come from, what their beliefs and life’s preferences are , to do what they will with what they have read. Nothing is forced. I would have done my job, but the choice will always be theirs, after all, we all have free will. Every book I write, recognizes that the reader has the power to choose who they are, who they should be, who they will become.

What is the last great book you’ve read? Because I have been writing, I have not been reading other books much. The reason is because I want my spirit, heart and mind to be clear of other peoples’ thoughts, words, ideas and opinions, so that I can clearly hear and purely write the words and message that flow through me, without the influence of what I may have read or listened to. The greatest book I have read, and am still reading after all these years, and that I will permit to influence me when I am writing is the Bible. I allow myself and my writing to be influenced by Biblical scriptures and stories. I desire for its beauty to flow into the lives of others, and it keeps me humble because I know where my gift is coming from and Who, God, is giving me the love, joy, patience, strength and boldness to do what I do, writing.

Do you snack while writing? Favorite snack? Lol, no actually I don’t. It would slow me down. I just zone in. However, I do eat like a wolf afterwards, with a huge grin of accomplishment on my face!

Where do you write? Anywhere! Dining table, bus, train, bed, park, anywhere the words and messages choose to flow.

Do you write every day? I only write when the words and message are flowing.

 What is your writing schedule? None, whatsoever.

Is there a specific ritualistic thing you do during your writing time? I talk to the words and the message. I ask questions and I ask for guidance and pray that I am writing the words and message exactly and concisely as they are to be written, because I realize that this is not about me, and that is a huge and humbling responsibility to carry. I do not take it for granted.

In today’s tech savvy world, most writers use a computer or laptop. Have you ever written parts of your book on paper? All the time! Any piece of paper, no matter what size! I have also written on lots of say, Starbucks, or Au Bon Pain, napkins!

If you’re a mom writer, how do you balance your time? I am a mom of two, and no, I do not try to balance my time. My children come first. I have been blessed with the strength to be a mother and a writer. I have been blessed with the wisdom to let my children know that Mama is writing right now, what would you guys like to do while she writes? I am blessed that somehow they understand, and when they are in need of juice, snacks or food, Mama is still here to get up and prepare it for them. Then I go back to writing. I write while I make dinner. The Reminder, describes that as the onion moment, where I am writing but keeping my eyes, ears, spirit, soul and heart open for and to my children and their needs. I accept that and so there is no struggle. I am energized and refreshed for them, and enjoy every precious moment with them.

If you could go back in time, where would you go? Favorite travel spot? I love visiting Chincoteague Island in Virginia. I love it past, present and future.

Favorite dessert? Ah, that’s a tough one. I love food, period.

If you were stuck on a deserted island, which 3 books would you want with you? I am biased. I will need only one book that has several books in it, (smile), and that is the Bible.

What’s the funniest thing that ever happened to you? The scariest? The strangest? Laugh! Now you are asking for whole bunch of stories which will not fit this interview because we would forever be discussing the funniest, scariest and strangest things that have happened to me. I have so many that have shaped and formed me, so many layers…we would be here forever.

What’s the most courageous thing you’ve ever done? Writing and opening myself up to the world. It’s really hard; a very difficult thing to do. I would rather be on my couch playing with my kids and quietly being a mother. But I awakened to the truth that I am here for a purpose and the greatest way for me to serve God, my family and the world is to fulfill that purpose.  

Any hobbies? Or Name a quirky thing you like to do. I love music and dancing for enjoyment and happiness, and expression of good energy. Just close my eyes and dance. I call it my happy exercise. I love sitting on my porch just listening to the silence and staring into space. I love meeting people and getting right into a meaningful conversation with them. I love looking up the definition of words and their synonyms, especially when I am in writing mode. 

If there is one thing you want readers to remember about you, what would it be? I write for you, because God loves you and wants your beauty to shine.

I answer His call for me to write, because I love you and I want your beauty to shine.

You are precious, you are valuable, and you are worth it!

I do not take any reader for granted, and I am humbled by the fact I have been given a voice to sow healing, love, restoration, patience and kindness. Virtues which have saved me, and are still saving me in this journey called life.

**This Interview was conducted by Monica Kelly at WritersNAuthors

To Write Your Heart

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If it were an easy thing to do, to write your heart and express what truly, secretly lies within, we would all be writing. But writing about your heart, your life, your true story, is no easy feat. It is no child’s play. It is courage beyond courage. It is fear, sweat and trembling, but then the words pour out, and you begin to feel that sweet, blissful release.

Sometimes the tears come, sometimes the rage builds, sometimes the memories are too agonizing and the pain amazingly unbearable. But they are nothing compared to the unspeakable joy of sheer relief and potent release that flood through  a person, after it has all been expressed on paper. There is almost no feeling compared to the deliverance from the burdens that have been lifted from the soul, spirit, body and mind, through writing. It is the kind of healing and high that only the one who writes out their trauma and looks it in the eye, writes to let it go and lay it down, can understand.

To write your heart takes inner courage, deeper strength, divine release from dark, heavy memories, that bring depression, pain, suffering, insecurity, fear, again, rages and thoughts of suicide. To write your heart, your story, is a personal release. It brings transformation and transcendence into a greater and better place, not just for you, but for generations to come.

Let this be recorded for future generations, so that a people not yet born will praise the LORD. Psalm 102:18 (NLT)

There is nothing light about writing your heart, your life, your truth, and your story, but it is not impossible. Whether you end up publishing it or not, it is worth doing.

Set yourself free!

ActivateGodsPurposeHere!

Piece By Piece

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Rising above and conquering the defilement, degradation and debasement of abuse, rape and molestation is a monumental task. One feels beaten up and unable to continue on. However, we cannot allow or permit such trauma and tragedy, to get the better of us.

There are millions of us, men, women, boys and girls, who have been raped, sexually molested, and abused, physically, emotionally, verbally and spiritually. Being violated is indescribable. The depth of pain, trauma, filth, shame and guilt that one who has undergone because of even just one of those sickening and debilitating experiences is inexpressible. Putting the life altering damage into words is indefinable. But we can, and we should, dis-empower our trauma, piece by piece, and thrive!

The torture of the memories, the agony of wanting to be able to wash it all away, the pain of trying to cleanse one’s mind, soul and spirit from them, are enough to lead one to all kinds of self-destructing and self-defeating vices. When one has been abused in truth, when abuse is real, one lives with its nauseating existence, wishing that he or she could just wish it away and it would never show its ugly dark head again.  One creates a realm, a self-protective bubble that only he or she can live in, where hopefully, no one can reach and touch and hurt them again, spiritually, emotionally, verbally or physically. It is unhealthy but the abused needs that bubble space to get away, if only for one minute. In our quest to never be or get hurt again, we work hard to ensure that it becomes our emotional fortress and build it to become extremely formidable for anyone to enter.

But at some point for our own sake and for that of others, because we are a part of this world, and the world a part of us, we have to lay it down and walk away from it. It is easier said than done, and I am not sure that the pain ever really goes away, for many of us, but this I do know, that we can create and spread joy, love, healing, piece by piece, for ourselves and for others. It is a decision. A very tough one, but not impossible. Many have found healing through writing, what is your outlet? Is it music, is it writing, is it dancing, is it talking about it? Find your healing, get your healing, piece by piece.

Regardless of what has happened, we can put our lives together again, piece by piece. With quiet determination we can overcome our pain, shame and guilt about something we did not wish for, or bring upon ourselves. It is not our weight to carry. It is not our burden to bear. We must know that, accept that, walk in that, and piece by piece, receive and give back joy, love, peace, kindness, and even healing.

If we do not, we will lose the beautiful purpose our beautiful souls were sent on this Earth to fulfill. Don’t allow the darkness to overwhelm and overtake you. Don’t give the rapist, the violator, the molester and the abuser that kind of power over your beautiful soul and spirit. No, instead, piece by piece, every day, find time to discover your true self, bring him or her out, and live an overcoming life, one that is determinedly and deliberately put back together by your will-power and choice. Breathe and know that you deserve that. You deserve a wholesome life, no matter how battered and shattered you have been.

Conquer your violator. Conquer your molester. Conquer your rapist. Piece by piece. You deserve it. There is a plan for you. A hope and a good future.

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)

Allow yourself to be put back together again, piece by piece.

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Broken Record New Song

 

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At some point in our lives, we have to stop asking why. Why did this happen to me? Why me? Why not someone else? Is it the way I look? Did I ask for this? What did I do to deserve this?  Why, why, why, the never ending why record that never stops spinning, over, and over, and over, and over again.  But what if we spun that spinning around? What if we decided to just stop asking why, and got rid of that record for good?

I think that that is a really healthy idea, because obsessively asking why just makes us sicker and sicker, mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically. It does not heal us, it does not bring us comfort, it does not grant us liberty or freedom.  It keeps us shut down,unable to function properly, and it pins us down in dungeons of darkness and self-pity, crippling us from becoming the best we can ever be.

Asking the question, why me, continuously, drains and depletes us. It does not bring or give the answers, and the likelihood of our ever finding the answer(s) is zero, to many of our traumatic why me experiences. What does not have to be zero, what should never have to be zero, is the sum of your life, and how you have lived it after your trauma. There is nothing fulfilling or wholesome about why me. There is everything worthwhile in turning that around and claiming, “I deserve better! I can do and be better than what happened to me. I can rise above it!” Let that be your ‘broken’ record. Let that be your new song. Play it, dance to it, until it becomes your reality.

Be grateful for every breath you breathe, for every good door that is opened to you, for every opportunity that comes your way, and for every chance to become the best version of you. Snap out of why me and soar with, it can only get better from now on! You have survived thus far, now give yourself the opportunity to live and to thrive.

Inexplicable why me. There can be so many answers that really lead to nothing. The one constant is that no matter how much you ask that question, it does not erase what happened to you, instead it makes you relive what you no longer want to remember. why me never helped anyone, and it’s not going to start with you. What has helped many is the hope and the determination to begin their lives afresh. Their new beginning has taken them to places they never thought possible, and the same can be for you, if you will only stop dancing to why me.

Stop playing the why me record that leads to a path of self-destruction. Abundance is available. Abundance of life awaits you. Change your tune, switch the record.

The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I have come that they may have life, and have it in all its fullness.  John 10:10 (Berean Study Bible)

Change that broken why me record to a new song, “I am alive to thrive and I dance to a different tune!”

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Write My Love, Write

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Write my love, write.

Write until your hearts sings.

Write until the tears flow.

Write until you hop, skip and jump.

Write until you feel like running to the finish line.

Write until you feel like swimming across a mighty ocean.

Write until you feel like climbing the highest mountain.

Write until you feel the sun on your face.

Write until the burdens fall off.

Write until your mental chains are broken.

Write until your emotional shackles shatter.

Write until you think only life not death.

Write until you sing. Write until you dance.

Write until you rejuvenate and see the light.

Write until revelation kicks in and you find your answers.

Write until you find redemption.

Write until you sway with the words you write, until you are one with them.

Write until your deliverance comes.

Write without restraints.

Write without holding back.

Write, until you soar like the eagle.

Write until you feel like anything is possible.

Write until you are released from your pain and agony.

Write until you discover that your healing and that of others, is not impossible.

Write until it all becomes clear for you and you have a message for the world.

The LORD answered me: Write down this vision; clearly inscribe it on tablets so one may easily read it. Habakkuk 2:2 (Holman Christian Standard Bible)

Yes, write my love, write.