What Do Your Tune and Dance Promote?


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Who am I? Who are you? Whose tune do you dance to? What do you dance to? Where is that dance leading you to? Do you stop to ask yourself? Are you careful about your dance and how it affects you and others around you? Do you care? Do you not care?

Whose tune do you dance to? Yours or someone else’s? Does your tune carry caring rhythms? Do you merge with others who  do the same? Does your tune carry destructive rhythms? Do you join those who are of the same?

“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.

-Matthew 5:9 (ESV)

What do your tune and dance create? Where will they take you? What are they doing for humanity? What are they doing for you, your family, friends, neighbors, communities, co-workers, strangers, or the world?

What do your tune and dance promote? Pain, fear, anxiety, stigma, division, hurt, bias, anger, rage, depression, prejudice? Or do they leave a ripple effect of joy, peace, tranquility, love, unity?

Let him turn away from evil and do good; let him seek peace and pursue it.

1 Peter 3:11 (ESV)

What are your tune and dance? The kind that builds, heals and brings life? Or the kind that brings destruction, fear, hatred and death?

What is your tune? What is your dance? Choose well my friend, my brother, my sister.

What we decide to do and how we react to others and to situations sends out ripple effects. What kind of ripple effects would you like to send out?

~The Reminder: Quiet Power, Peaceful Confidence

Choose well! There is power in caring!


Tomorrow’s Hope

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The process of self-analyzing, of deep reflections and taking responsibility for our own actions is one that should never stop.  It should be a lifetime of quiet determination to become better and better at building the type of Quiet Power, Peaceful Confidence in knowing who our true self is. We can learn from our mistakes and become hope for our kind, that is, mankind. It’s a choice, an authentic deliberate and genuine decision, nothing less.

“Change happens in an instant. It happens the moment you decide to change.” ~Allyson Lewis

There was once a lion cub who somehow found himself growing with a pack of wild dogs.  He went everywhere with them, and did everything with them. One day, while playing with the pack of dogs in the wild, a male lion came by. He shook his captivating mane, and belted out a thunderous roar! All the wild dogs ran, and the little lion cub, after a brief hesitation and frown, turned and ran off with the pack he was familiar with.  They were who he was familiar with.  Their fear was his fear, their anxiety was his anxiety.  Their dread was his dread.  But after seeing that huge lion and hearing his roar, something from within began to nudge the cub.

One day, the cub drifted away from the pack and as he walked with a carefree manner, heading for nowhere in particular, he ended up by a river.  Of course he wanted to lap some water; he was thirsty and needed a drink.  Unknown to him, he was about to understand why he had stood still and frowned when the big male lion roared like thunder!  Destiny was about to meet with identity! He was about to be reborn! He was about to understand why he had felt a nudge from within, after the encounter with the bigger and older lion.

He bent down to lap some water and saw his reflection, and for the first time ever, really looked at himself and saw who he was! Wait a minute! He looked exactly like the bigger lion! Wait a minute! If that lion could walk with such dignity, majesty, surety, magnificence and power, so could he! If that lion wielded such command, power and authority and could be so self –assured, so could he! He was not a wild dog after all, he was a majestic lion, who bowed down to no one, roared with power, and walked with authority! At this point it did not matter what had happened in his past, or how he got to be raised by a pack of wild dogs, or how he got into that situation in the first place! What did matter was that he had DISCOVERED himself!

The next day, the huge and commanding lion came by again, and belted out one of his booming roars.  The pack of wild dogs, once again, scrambled and ran off.  But the little cub, who had now found his true self, stood his ground, found his voice, refused to back down, and roared right back! His true nature had kicked in.

What have we, our own kind, mankind, become? What are we doing for each other? What are we doing to each other? It appears as though our capacity to hurt one another, to easily lash out at others, and to carelessly discourage and ruthlessly wound another have heightened to a point where we have become callous about our own kind, mankind. Is there something we can learn from that little lion cub?  Can we find our true secure selves, change and become better and better at appreciating ourselves and each other?  The young lion discovered how majestic, royal and powerful he really was. Can we reach deep within us and do the same?  What will it take!

I believe that we do have the innate ability and instinct to empower each other, even though everything around us indicates that we should be ruthless and selfish.  The trends we follow, the music we listen to, our own extreme indulgences, our entitled manner in which we behave and treat others, and our insecurities in not quite figuring out our individual identities and purpose on this earth, have influenced our actions in a not so good way.

If we discover our true identity, our true self, we will find that:

  • We do not have to tear each other down or tear each other apart.
  • We do not have to bring division among ourselves.
  • We do not have to crush and suppress each other.
  • We do not have to look down on other people for any reason whatsoever.
  • We do not have to glory in other people’s ‘failures’. ~The Reminder

Have we not learned from the past, our own past and other people’s past?

Let’s take the time  to discover who we truly are, rethink who and what we have become, rethink our actions, rethink what we are doing to each other.

We CAN learn to care, because our true selves, from deep within, the beauty and virtue dormant in us, does care!  For the sake of all mankind, but most especially for tomorrow’s hope, the children, let us pull from the well of decency lying inside us, so that they will not pay the price for our mistakes, and suffer for our wrong doing! Like the lion cub saw who he truly was and could become, can the children do the same with us?

  “Tomorrow hopes we have learned something from yesterday ~John Wayne

Can we secure tomorrow’s hope?






What Will Our Last Heartbeat Say of Us?


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We do not have forever on this earth. The question then becomes, what are we doing with this finite time we have been given?

What is our focus? To hate and despise, or is it to find a way to put the self aside and figure out how we can do better and act better, more lovingly?

Spreading hate, or spreading love?

  Spreading good deeds or meanness?

Spreading joy or misery?

Spreading light or darkness?

What ripple effects are we choosing to send out? Can we join hands, hang heads and make great things happen for each other?  Can we be less competitive, become less jealous, less envious and less egotistical, fearful and selfish and simply make the decision to assist each other?  In our families, at work, personal relationships, friends, and even with strangers, is there a way we can talk better, act better and love better?  Can we muster and gather enough love and kindness?

I believe in us, in humanity; I really believe we can.  It’s a decision. A deliberate choice!

We can set aside the mentality and mindsets that make us create and fuel hate, anger and resentment.

We can determine to not allow, and in fact get rid of, what motivates us to hurt and destroy others, causing them unimaginable pain!

What do we benefit from being, mean, arrogant, and down-putting people?

What do we gain when we sensationalize other people’s demise, ‘failures’, weaknesses and mistakes in life?

What satisfaction do we derive in extinguishing someone else’s dreams?

Where is the joy in belittling, disgracing and degrading another precious human life?

What is the spiritual and emotional gain in suppressing and oppressing others?

Can we perhaps start working on being SPECIAL?

  • Special in the sense that we make a resolution to be kind, generous, promote other people’s lives, celebrate, assist and encourage them?
  • Special in the sense that we make it a deliberate purpose to lend a hand, boost others up, cushion their fall, alleviate their pain, and strengthen them to succeed?
  • Can we be bold in the things that matter, such as joyfully boosting another’s growth, lighten the burden on their lives, support and sustain them until they blossom, when we have the capacity to do so?
  • Can we stop for a minute and assist another, bring them respite from their troubles, get behind them and champion them on into their own personal and professional victories?
  • Would it be so hard to bend over backward, and contribute to another person’s well-being in a meaningful way?
  • Has our ability to minister, nurse, and bring succor to other people, been completely taken over by the self?

I know that we all, including me, have our challenges in life.  We all have enough that we have to deal with, BUT, there is something in us, divine, infinite, inexplicable, which emerges when we begin to demonstrate love in our own agony, inspiration in our own darkness, and liberty in our own walls.  Something strange, but exhilarating, beautiful and powerful begins to happen to us, and for others, when in our own challenges, we chose to assist others.  It is indescribable healing, undefinable joy, it is peace that cannot be explained. It is possible, it is REAL!

Let’s think about our legacy, the things we spend time on, and the type of negative or positive impact they are making.  Will we leave behind deeds and footprints that will harm and handicap humanity, or ones that will validate its worth and value?  Will we leave behind ones that will boost humanity’s state of being, or one that will thwart it?

What will our last heartbeat say of us?

“I believe every human has a finite number of heartbeats.  I don’t intend to waste any of mine.”  ~Neil Armstrong

Sum up the strength and courage, leave that SPECIAL footprint.




The Last of Human Freedoms


Let’s ask ourselves the real questions, I mean, the honest questions.  The ones that make us very uncomfortable, the ones that force us to look in the mirror and our reflection is not what we want to see, but the truth cannot be denied.  Let’s rethink finger-pointing and instead self-examine, and take our eyes off other colleagues, family, friends and strangers, and really look at ourselves from within.

What does our reflection reveal about our mindset? What does it tell us about how we view other people? Are we blinded by myopia, and darkened by closed mindedness? Does our reflection show us that we have lost sight of other people’s humanity? Does it tell us that we believe that we are better than other people, especially those who don’t look and talk like us, who may not be as educated, whose job titles, financial and social status do not match ours?

                                                   Every soul is priceless and precious!

As the world gets harsher, meaner and more ruthless, what choices are we going to make, what attitudes are we going to cultivate?

  • Continue holding on to our destructive and damaging mindsets, or are we going to pursue purpose and destiny that will liberate us and others?
  • Be stuck in our own insecurities, bubbles and walls, or are we going to grow, spread our wings and endeavor to assist in bringing humanity to all?
  • Impede other people’s goals, destroy their peace of mind, add to their own existing pain, contribute to their misery, or will we aide them, buoy them up and support them? 

Must we all keep paying the price for our negative mindsets and the way we have been conditioned?  We CAN choose to change our attitudes and lend a kind hand, say something uplifting, champion others on, nurture and harness them, instead of hindering and obstructing their professional and personal growth.

Regardless of who we are, or where we come from, we are all people, each one of us special, valuable and precious, and do not deserve any form of abuse, or denial to be the best that we can be.  

It is no easy feat, it takes guts, but we can will and make the choice to reach deep into the core of our being and develop a mindset that builds, not destroys. We can develop a beautiful attitude, and act better towards family, colleagues, friends and even strangers.  It is our right, and our freedom to do so!

“The last of human freedoms – the ability to choose one’s attitude in a given set of circumstances.” ~Viktor E. Frankl







A Rising Tide Lifts All Boats

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There will be days when you do not want to help others, when you want to keep all your skills and knowledge to yourself. There will be times when you are annoyed or aggravated by a colleague who asks for your help. You may from time to time feel that keeping your working knowledge to yourself, instead of teaching others, will help separate you from the pack.

Working in an office means working collaboratively. When you keep certain information or certain skills to yourself, you may actually be hurting your team and hurting your own positive trajectory!

Assisting a colleague at work should be seen as privilege, a gift and an honor.

It is a privilege because someone else could have been your colleague’s assistant. It is a gift because a certain joy should fill you when imparting knowledge. It is an honor because you should be humbled that you are in a position to assist another.

Instead of hoarding information and skills, why not share that knowledge and allow others to grow? You may be surprised how fulfilling it is to teach and then sit back and witness the fruits of your kind action.

On the flip side, it is important to be aware of how you help others. Are you genuinely helpful or are you expecting reimbursement for your shared time and knowledge? When you help someone, do you do it loudly so that everyone else can hear you, and thus embarrass your colleague? What does it say about you when every time you assist someone, you make it a point to tell everyone in the office and discredit the person who just learned something new from you?

A rising tide lifts all boats.

Remember, you have been in situations where you have needed assistance, too. The knowledge and skills you currently have are hardly innate! You did not just get to where you are now overnight. Many people helped you along your journey. Find it in your heart to show the same grace and mercy to your colleagues in need.

Take great comfort in knowing that when you are able to help a fellow colleague you are helping the whole team. You are helping to create a better work environment for everyone around you – including yourself. Be a beacon of light. Generate positive energy. Empower others to take control of their work and assist others in becoming the guides of their own vessels.

It is a privilege, a gift and an honor to assist another. In the end, you will reap the blessing.






Pop Quiz! How Rich Are You?

Are you ready to learn how rich you really are?! 

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Guess what… I am NOT referring to money! I’m referring to your heart, your spirit, your soul, and your attitude. YES you CAN be supremely RICH in mind, soul, spirit and heart! Let’s take a quick quiz to find out where you stand…

Pop Quiz! (Answer honestly for best results.)

  1. Are you the type of colleague who is always seeking adoration?
    • How far are you willing to go to be adored and worshipped?
  2. Are you the type of colleague who needs validation?
    • How far are you willing to go to be validated?
  3. How many times a day, a week, a month, a year, do these have to occur for you to feel satisfied?
  4. Do you get your high on being the center of attention?
  5. Have you ever thought about how this need affects your colleagues?

Each answer you gave above reflects how rich you are in mind, heart, and soul. How do you feel?

Now take a minute and think: how would your ideal self answer each question? Would the answers change?

How healthy is your spirit? How full is your heart? How whole is your soul? Do you feel that you need a change of attitude? A refilling of your heart? A cleansing of your spirit?

No matter how you answered, know that you are okay. You CAN come to center and move forward with grace and purpose.

Breathe deeply. Channel positivity. Develop a mantra to get you through tough moments. Know that you are worthy in the eyes of God. The rest will follow.






Learning to Flourish in the Dark

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Do you feel like you are able to be your best self at work? The majority of us are working hard to earn a paycheck every two weeks. We strive for our work to feel good. We want to be inspired by positive energy and to be encouraged to perform at our best levels.

However it’s an unfortunate truth that some of us feel that we cannot blossom at our jobs. We don’t feel good. We are surrounded by negative energy. And as for feeling encouraged to work at our best levels? Forget about it!

Instead we are held back by fear. We bring our personal insecurities to the office. We fear another colleague’s judgment. We face bosses who are never satisfied, no matter what we do or how hard we work. We face put downs, cynicism, belittling treatment, and smug looks.

It’s easy to allow such treatment to paralyze. It’s easy to allow others to prevent us from trying our best and putting our best face forward. How can we be expected to flourish in a place of darkness? By shining our own brilliant light!

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” -Eleanor Roosevelt

The hard truth is that we need these chiselers in our life to help shape us into becoming the best version of ourselves. We will never reach our potential and we will never maximize our true abilities unless we face hardships. We CAN overcome the naysayers, the grouches, the mean-spirited. Slowly, steadily, but surely we can begin to flourish and create our own positive energy to push us through.

Reflect, breathe deep, and perform like never before!

Be a winner. Overcome fear. Soar on your job.

You CAN do this. 

Need more encouragement? 





Let’s Stop Hating What We Do Not Understand

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I have always wondered why many of us hate what we don’t know or don’t even understand. Sometimes we look at other people and just hate them. It’s an impulse that simply feeds negativity and bad energy. Instead, I wish for us all, myself included, to just learn to give joy, peace and love to each other, and in times when we cannot bring ourselves to do so, that we walk away and just leave things well alone.

If we cannot understand why a colleague is different, thinks differently, acts differently from us, and does not talk or walk the way we want, does that warrant hate, gossip and put down?

Just as we feel the right to be who we are, so they feel that  they have the right to be who they are, too.

I mean, don’t we all have work to do? Aren’t there more important things to spend our precious time and energy on other than bickering, complaining, and psychoanalyzing each other? Wouldn’t our time be much better spent taking the time to know a little more about each other?

None of us have walked in another’s shoes so what do we really know? What are we really hating here and how do we hate someone we don’t even know? What does that say about us?

This week, cleanse yourself of the negative, hateful views you harbor of just one person and try instead to look at them in a brighter, more positive light. Do your best to soften negative impulses or jumping to negative conclusions about a person’s character. Let me know how it goes!