Higher Self



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Do not lose your humanity on the job. You are human and so are your colleagues. We are working with people with real feelings, and real life challenges. We do not know what damage is weighing them down, or how many tears they shed when no one is looking or why.

We are all dealing with pain in one way or another for different reasons, from different types of experiences. We know what ours is but we cannot read another’s. Unfortunately, most of our colleagues use the work platform to manifest their personal torment, prejudices, insecurities and biases.

Should you consistently react and become who and whatever they want you to become?

Or should you take the higher ground and just be yourself?

Should you find a way to get them back, be vindictive? Or forgive and let it go?

It’s not that you are dumb or stupid, and yes oftentimes you are justified to give it right back, but there is more power in letting their words and actions become water on a duck’s back. Keep moving. See it for what it is: not worth your time of day. Most importantly you are not the one for a tit-for-tat situation. You have worked on yourself too hard, been through too much, come a long way to let yourself stoop to that!

Be your higher self and take the higher ground. Yes, this can be very agonizing most times, but with much practice, it becomes easier and easier to a point where you almost don’t even have to think about it and will yourself to take a higher ground, you just simply find yourself doing so naturally.

When your focus is to fulfill purpose, or search for purpose in order to fulfill purpose, taking the higher ground becomes so much easier, because your focus is on destiny and not a destination that is one stop fits all.

Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. – Colossians 3:2

What is your focus this week? Will you embrace your higher self?


Take Good Care of Yourself

We are all capable of performing some deep soul searching in order to make the right choices, and become better and wiser at making those choices. We can make wiser choices for our hearts, our souls, our spirits, and our minds. We can make wiser choices about how we treat others because our treatment of them ultimately affects our lives. There is a time to be young and foolish, as the saying goes, but there  is a time for maturity, where our lenses in life, and of life, should change, and change for the better, after we would learned from our past mistakes, things we have done and things that have been done to us. Endeavor to take better care of yourself, strive to take good care of yourself, determine to take beautiful care of yourself. Be careful how you live your life and how you treat others, it will determine how healthy your life will become mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and even physically.

When a situation is extremely difficult I find that to take care of myself better, I have to be careful how I react for my own sake, for my peace of mind, and that of other people’s, especially if I don’t want to go back and say I am sorry. For me, having to go back to say I am sorry, is a biting reminder to myself that I perhaps could have handled things better, differently, if I had just taken that one deep breath, paused and taken the higher ground. Easier said than done, it can be so very difficult to take that higher ground. Sometimes I want to pretend it doesn’t exist and I want to give in to my carnal nature and fight back!  However, I find that if I take that one deep breath, walk away for a minute, a day, a week (dependent upon how deep the cut and how emotional I feel), I will find the strength, the peace and the wisdom to handle the situation or person more appropriately.

A positive, mature, and constructive response comes with a lot of practice and an attitude that is always less on the defensive. That’s why when we are angry, weak, confused and hurting, we should take better care of ourselves by not talking to just anyone, but selectively talk to a very few, who we know will keep our minds and spirits healthy by being straight shooters with us, and not encourage us to hold self-obsessed, bitter and angry pity parties. No matter what our upset, they are able to lovingly but firmly give us an objective and healthy perspective, one that helps us to go back and self-reflect, figure out how or where we went wrong, and what we could have done better. A lot of times it hurts, but if we want to take better care of ourselves, if we want to be a better individuals, we have to be careful and selective of who we allow to whisper into our souls, our hearts, our minds and our spirits, because we should only want the truth, which indeed does liberate us.

The more we assist ourselves in becoming better individuals, the deeper we are able to love ourselves, the better we are able to treat others, the more we are reminded to remain peaceful and use our power in a gentle but confident manner. We have the right and the capacity to be our best selves, even with all our imperfections, even when handling and dealing with other people’s imperfections. It brings you peace of mind, better self-acceptance and better self-love, not arrogance and pride, just gentle love and humility for yourself and towards others.

We can develop the ability to achieve quiet inner confidence and a power that propels us to serve and uplift, support and sustain others, bear up and bring solace to others. In turn, as we do so, we experience deeper peace, acquire greater strength, become filled with in depth wisdom, and the courage to love not only ourselves more and more, but others as well. It is not about becoming a people pleaser, it’s about becoming our better selves and taking better care of him or her. And as we do so, we become more careful about how we treat others and in turn it creates, develops and builds a healthier self-awareness, self-love and self-worth state of being.

Take good care of yourself!


Significant Cogs


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Are you feeling like a cog in a machine? Is someone making you feel like you are just a cog, and that you are irrelevant? Are you making someone feel like they are just a cog in the machine? Without any of us, the machine, the system, the office, your family, your friends, acquaintances and strangers, the world, Earth, will not function a hundred per cent. There is something about you, a piece of you, a part of you, that appears insignificant, but it is that very part of you, that we all need, to fully function. You are not indispensable. We are not indispensable. Everyone has a gift to give, whether or not we know this, whether or not we accept this, is another matter, and makes all the difference. We are not, not one of us, an insignificant cog.

Never look down on anyone. Never underestimate anyone. Never give up on anyone. Never cast them away or think that you are better than them, in any way, shape or form. You just never know. They carry something we all and the rest of the world needs. They might appear foolish, immaterial and inconsequential, but if we would just stop focusing on self-importance for a minute, look closer and look deeper at the other person we think is beneath us, or we think has no intelligence, we will see their significance.

If we would just act kinder, less down-putting, less condescending, we will see the gold they carry within. And if we cannot assist them, we should just leave them alone. If we cannot add to their well-being why torment them?  Because they are different? Because they are not who we want them to be, or because, in our opinion, they are not good enough, and up to our standards? But what standards exactly? If you cannot accept another, walk away peacefully. If you cannot build, do not destroy.

We can assist each other, if we deliberately make the choice to snap out of our biases, prejudices, expectations and pedestals. So how about we come with the beauty and light that we all carry within us and make the machine of our world and existence work beautifully for each and every one of us? Come with our joy. Come with our potential. Come with our gift. Come with our passion. Come with our love. Come with our kindness. Come with our patience. Come with our understanding. Come with our purpose and never look down on others.

Our part, our purpose might appear small, but they are not. They might seem unimportant and dwarfed by other “bigger” purposes, but that is just a figment of our imagination. Our role, our title might look irrelevant compared to bigger roles and bigger titles, but we, each and every one of us, is absolutely relevant and significant. Without each of us, every single one of us, the machine, the system, our communities, our relationships, our families, our workplaces, our world, does not, will not function, to their fullest capacity and potential.

There is an unspoken, sometimes undiscovered connection, between all of us humans; but we have broken those connection lines in a million destructive ways. It is not impossible to fix them, unless we are too far gone of course, locked up in our egos, shackled down by our own self-centeredness, insensitive to how others feel. There is unspeakable, indescribable divine potential within all of us, if we would just tap into it. What we think is weakness can be turned into power. What we think is useless, might become the most useful, what we think is foolishness, might turn out to be the deepest wisdom.

Think well. Let’s think well before we judge and condemn. Let’s think well before we belittle another. Let’s think well and not look down on what might appear to be the insignificant cog. Appearances are likely deceiving. The reality and the truth is that the very thing that we look down on, could very well be our lifesaver. Do not, never, look down on yourself, because you do carry innate divine wisdom, intelligence and potential. You are not, we are not, insignificant. Not at all.

Brothers and sisters, think of what you were when you were called. Not many of you were wise by human standards; not many were influential; not many were of noble birth. But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong. God chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things–and the things that are not–to nullify the things that are, so that no one may boast before him.  – Corinthians 1-26:29 (New International Version)


Using Our Greatness and Power to Show Kindness



America, we are one nation under God and in God we trust. With this in mind, and with the privilege of being a world power, should we not show His great kindness, generosity, love and forgiveness to those who need us the most? After all, we are all God’s children.

The earth and everything it contains are the LORD’s. The world and all who live in it are his. -Psalm 24:1 (GODS WORD ® Translation)

In Dead Man Walking Sister Helen Prejean stressed that, “it is better to help ten real hurting people – or nine, or one, than to be overwhelmed and withdraw and do nothing.” In light of this, I would like to put a face to immigrants and ask us to use our greatness to demonstrate kindness.  Let us be benevolent with our greatness towards the pain, fear, nostalgia, agony, insecurity and embarrassment that immigrants suffer.

Immigrants have been misunderstood and vilified, but they are a source of enormous potential for our great nation.  They are not the cause of the world’s problems, or America’s problems. It is the thirst for power of others that leads many to flee from dangerous, destitute, undignified and life threatening situations in their own countries. Immigrants do not choose to be displaced from their homes, but the destructive and oppressive conditions which they are forced to live in uproots them to leave the agony that their countries of origin have become, to come to this beacon of hope called America. Would we not do the same?

My country of origin, Sierra Leone, suffered a brutal civil war. Hands, legs, of men, women and children were hacked off; young girls and women were gang raped. Our story is filled with horrors that no human being should ever have to endure. International diamond companies benefited from our spilled blood and agony, as international arms were exchanged for our national diamonds. Foreign nationals built their fortunes out of our misfortune. They built their dreams out of our nightmares. As a result many were displaced and were treated with repulsion, unaccepted and an inconvenience to and in foreign countries.

Immigrants come to the United States out of the necessity to escape grave danger, hunger and persecution. It is by far one of the most humiliating, belittling and degrading experiences one can undergo. Immigrants don’t come here to purposely abuse the American system and way of life. Men, women and children have come to this country because the alternative is death.  If you were faced with a decision to either come to America or to stay and have your daughter gang raped by militia, your son taken as a child soldier, your wife or husband mutilated and tortured to death, or to watch your malnourished baby slowly die, would you not risk everything you had, to find a safe haven for them? If that safe haven is America, would you not bring them here?

The primary goal of immigrants is not to take jobs, healthcare and education from Americans, no, it is simply to stay alive. Immigrants will do almost anything to arrive in America because of what we say we stand for – freedom, dignity, justice and opportunity. They want to contribute not just to America but to the world. Like every other human being, they have hopes and dreams too. They want to assist but their hands are tied. Many want to be a voice, but their voices are broken. They want to rise up and shine, but they are suppressed. They want to be assets not liabilities.

If America were to pass laws that will assist immigrants to live openly and not in hiding, restoring their hope and dignity, America will reap its kindness in unimaginable ways. This is America, and we have the greatness, the power and the gift to not only be kind to others, but to give them back their dignity and treat them as brothers and sisters.

Like Ghandi said, “One comes to appreciate that there can be no ‘we’s’, and ‘they’s’, but only brothers and sisters- all children of God – all sacred and dignified.”

Immigrants are not looking for pity, but the right to live as human beings. There are plenty brilliant immigrants, hardworking, well-meaning and respectful. Given the opportunity, they will continue to contribute positively to America, uplift her, and support her. They are proud and grateful to be here. They understand and know how beneficial it would be to be industrious, resourceful and productive in this great nation.

Unfortunately, and sadly, it seems as though we live in a culture that appears to view kindness as weakness, but it is not, it is power. We will reap what we sow; therefore, let us use our freedom and freewill to sow love, mercy, kindness, peace, forgiveness those who need us to live and thrive. I know we have to protect our nation, but let us also use our existence on God’s earth to give life to those who would otherwise suffer and die with all their God-given potential, a chance to flourish and prosper.  Do not allow fear to make us act or become like anyone else but our better self. At such a time as this America, let our kindness and compassion, not our fears and insecurities, shape our nation. Let us use our power to be just and kind. Let us be an example of fearlessly demonstrating unconditional love. A difficult thing to do, but not an impossibility.

“You are to have the same law for the foreigner and the native-born. I am the LORD your God.” -Leviticus 24:22 (NIV)

Indeed may God bless America and as He blesses us, may we in turn bless those who need us so desperately.

Kindness is NOT weakness! It is real power!


A Priceless Mindset

She showed me what real change is, and it was not money, it was something more, it was priceless. It was a renewed state of mind that gave me good character and a healthy way of thinking and processing my thoughts and behavior. It gave me sheer joy and peace because it helped treat myself and others better.

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My mother not only taught me in words, but also in deeds. There were times when she did not take my side on certain painful issues or when I thought she was too strict but now I cannot thank her enough for how she raised me and for being who she is and setting an example while I was growing up. I have sustained many challenges because of her upbringing and teachings, her outlook on life and how to walk with diverse people of different personality types. She would handle everyone individually and uniquely depending on their personality type, but always with respect. It was not a cookie cutter approach. Looking back now, I realize that as diverse as the individuals were, and as differently as she walked with them depending on who they were, two things remained consistent: she did not change her character to suit someone else because they were uncomfortable with her, and her level of patience with each person and her tenacity to love them would not be eroded by conflicting personalities. I cannot for a single moment recall her ever taking her personal challenges or pain out on other people. Instead I constantly observed her acts of kindness, patience and service towards other people, and listened to her give reasons as to why people are the way they are, affirming we should always endeavor to have a good heart and treat people decently. As a youth (and even as an adult) when I was frustrated or angry with someone, she would always remind me to think about the human factor and not take the person too seriously, because who knows what their problems are and what troubles and torments them within ? Who knows what damage and demons they carry? ~ The Reminder: Quiet Power, Peaceful Confidence

She does not have billions in her bank account but she is free of anger, hatred and bitterness. She is rich.

When I was younger her approach did not make sense to me. When I complained about the way someone treated me, she would brush it off and tell me not to feed into it or pay it any mind, when what I really wanted to do was confront the individual. Sometimes it hurt to apply her approach; it felt like I was letting people take advantage of me. But every time I applied it, I became a stronger and better person. Slowly, applying her approach made it easier to ignore what needed to be ignored, to be forgiving, to keep my heart free of any grudge, anger or hatred, and to just not feed into other people’s negativity. I worked on making greater efforts to be kind, peaceful and more understanding. When I realized that her approach added more to my life and it didn’t reduce me to a doormat or a bully, I fully embraced it. I realized that Mother had uncommon patience but was nobody’s doormat. She had the strength to not allow the blows others dealt to turn her into a mean, bitter, and depressed person. Even now after all these years, her constant advice is to cool it, take it easy, and avoid instant anger. Her theory is that it is not worth the long-term effects. Instead it is more essential to think things through before taking action and dealing with the person(s) I feel offended by. She does not use the exact term “take a deep breath,” but it is the same approach and advice. She does not have billions in her bank account but she is free of anger, hatred and bitterness. She is rich. ~ The Reminder: Quiet Power, Peaceful Confidence

She raised me and changed my mindset, the type of change that money cannot buy, the type of change that will last me a life time, assisting not just me, but humanity.

Romans 12:2 New International Version (NIV)

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

What or who influences your mind, your heart, your soul, your spirit?






The Brave Choice to Light the Flames of Kindness


There are many things that I do not know or understand. I do not claim to comprehend all the issues and complexities of life, but I am terribly worried for and about our human race. It appears that our capacity and thrill to hurt, wound and destroy each other is growing by the minute! I don’t know much, but I do know that we can choose to use our freewill to push back against hate and unkindness. It’s not easy, but in the face of all the anger, pessimism, bitterness, evil, meanness and darkness we are surrounded by every day, WE CAN MAKE THE BRAVE CHOICE TO LIGHT THE FLAMES OF KINDNESS!

I am not naive; I know that situations in life are not always clear cut. I am not so simplistic as to expect that every situation is cut and dry or easy to deal with or to find solutions to. There are some situations in my own life which I am still trying to figure out how to handle and I have to make a deliberate effort and choice to either react positively or simply stay away until I can deal with them in a better, more positive fashion.  However, I do know that we make our choices, and they come with consequences. I do know that my attitude towards people and how I treat them matters! I dare to be idealistic and brave enough to believe that we can love better instead of hating, we can be kind instead of unkind, if we make the brave choice to do so! We are humans! Our solution to our personal fears, insecurities and anger DO NOT have to result in the destruction of another human being.

Let’s stop for a minute and take a really good look around us.  What has hate, stigma, prejudice, finger-pointing, unkindness, down-putting, slandering, division and stereotyping done for humanity? Because we do not agree with someone, their character, their behavior, their race, their creed, their lifestyle, the way they talk and walk, should that justify that we hate them and treat them like dirt? I DON’T BELIEVE SO! Many times we ask to be understood and accepted, yet we do not do the same for others.  In my hurt, anger and confusion, I have found it to be wiser to take a deep breath, hold my tongue, which comes with a lot of practice, and walk away from a person or a situation I do not understand or know how to handle. My pain, anger and insecurities are not a license to inflict wounds on other people!

I have my own personal thoughts, beliefs and opinions about many things, but should that compel me to despise others who have a difference in opinion? My choice should not be to subscribe and enlist other people to hate and despise other people just because we differ. Can we be brave enough to stop hating and instead be brave and courageous enough to give love and show kindness to our fellow human beings? It’s not easy, but it’s not impossible! Hate, meanness and unkindness are cheap commodities, found everywhere, but kindness and love are hard to come by, they are not cheap and common.

I understand that sometimes we have to have uncomfortable conversations, but how we have the conversation matters! Is it from a heart and mindset of searching for wisdom and knowledge on how to handle a person or situation in a kinder, gentler more loving and understanding manner, and towards creating peace? Or are we just itching to whisper evil and malign another to the next available ear, and sow a destructive opinion and thought in the next easily influenced heart and mind? Are we thriving on destroying, slandering and degrading others, planning their demise, obsessed with pulling them down, or are we having the conversation in order to work towards unity, collaboration and peace? Some of us will insist that being nasty is our right, and that leads me wonder.

  • How has hate and wrecking another soul assisted us?
  • How has such behavior, such mindsets served humanity or set us free?
  • Do we derive real joy and real peace from such behavior?
  • Does it chase our personal demons away and set us free from them?
  • Does it bring us healing from our depression and insecurities?
  • Does it liberate and relieve us from our deepest fears, misplaced and misdirected anger?
  • Does it take away the darkness that torments us from within?

 The answer is plain and simple, NO, to all of the above!

Do not let kindness and truth leave you; Bind them around your neck, Write them on the tablet of your heart. Proverbs 3:3 (NASB)

More than ever, our human race needs all the love and kindness we can muster.

Will you be brave enough to light the flames of kindness?



What Will Our Last Heartbeat Say of Us?


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We do not have forever on this earth. The question then becomes, what are we doing with this finite time we have been given?

What is our focus? To hate and despise, or is it to find a way to put the self aside and figure out how we can do better and act better, more lovingly?

Spreading hate, or spreading love?

  Spreading good deeds or meanness?

Spreading joy or misery?

Spreading light or darkness?

What ripple effects are we choosing to send out? Can we join hands, hang heads and make great things happen for each other?  Can we be less competitive, become less jealous, less envious and less egotistical, fearful and selfish and simply make the decision to assist each other?  In our families, at work, personal relationships, friends, and even with strangers, is there a way we can talk better, act better and love better?  Can we muster and gather enough love and kindness?

I believe in us, in humanity; I really believe we can.  It’s a decision. A deliberate choice!

We can set aside the mentality and mindsets that make us create and fuel hate, anger and resentment.

We can determine to not allow, and in fact get rid of, what motivates us to hurt and destroy others, causing them unimaginable pain!

What do we benefit from being, mean, arrogant, and down-putting people?

What do we gain when we sensationalize other people’s demise, ‘failures’, weaknesses and mistakes in life?

What satisfaction do we derive in extinguishing someone else’s dreams?

Where is the joy in belittling, disgracing and degrading another precious human life?

What is the spiritual and emotional gain in suppressing and oppressing others?

Can we perhaps start working on being SPECIAL?

  • Special in the sense that we make a resolution to be kind, generous, promote other people’s lives, celebrate, assist and encourage them?
  • Special in the sense that we make it a deliberate purpose to lend a hand, boost others up, cushion their fall, alleviate their pain, and strengthen them to succeed?
  • Can we be bold in the things that matter, such as joyfully boosting another’s growth, lighten the burden on their lives, support and sustain them until they blossom, when we have the capacity to do so?
  • Can we stop for a minute and assist another, bring them respite from their troubles, get behind them and champion them on into their own personal and professional victories?
  • Would it be so hard to bend over backward, and contribute to another person’s well-being in a meaningful way?
  • Has our ability to minister, nurse, and bring succor to other people, been completely taken over by the self?

I know that we all, including me, have our challenges in life.  We all have enough that we have to deal with, BUT, there is something in us, divine, infinite, inexplicable, which emerges when we begin to demonstrate love in our own agony, inspiration in our own darkness, and liberty in our own walls.  Something strange, but exhilarating, beautiful and powerful begins to happen to us, and for others, when in our own challenges, we chose to assist others.  It is indescribable healing, undefinable joy, it is peace that cannot be explained. It is possible, it is REAL!

Let’s think about our legacy, the things we spend time on, and the type of negative or positive impact they are making.  Will we leave behind deeds and footprints that will harm and handicap humanity, or ones that will validate its worth and value?  Will we leave behind ones that will boost humanity’s state of being, or one that will thwart it?

What will our last heartbeat say of us?

“I believe every human has a finite number of heartbeats.  I don’t intend to waste any of mine.”  ~Neil Armstrong

Sum up the strength and courage, leave that SPECIAL footprint.