After Celebrating Labor Day

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This Labor Day, after all the celebrations, it is very important to reflect on what type of colleague you truly are. It is important to be aware of when we are contributing to negativity. We must realize, as colleagues, how profound our position is in creating an office environment, how we can manipulate situations and people. It should humble and propel us to build and not destroy, to create good and not cause or add to chaos, or another’s embarrassment or demise. Ask yourself what type of person you are in the office? Be honest with yourself.

  • Do you, nourish, serve, stimulate, urge, uphold and propel your co-workers?
  • Do you, motivate, inspire, uplift, cheer and champion your colleagues?
  • Do you, encourage, assist, reassure, revitalize, lend a hand and give others a leg up in your office?
  • Or, do you damage, block, discourage, handicap, obstruct, impede, thwart and throw others in your workplace under the bus?

Do you get into a fight about every little thing or do you pick your battles? Picking your battles, even ignoring some battles, is not fear or cowardice. It is quiet power. It is having peaceful confidence that you have much better things to do, and that the amount of energy it would take engaging in a confrontation is just not worth it.

Are you controlling at the workplace? Trying to be in charge and controlling doesn’t take away our insecurities; it makes us weaker and makes the emptiness inside us louder. Think about it: how many times have you thought you had every one and yourself under control? How long did it last? More importantly, what did that really do for you? Ask yourself what works better for your soul and people’s hearts and lives: controlling and thwarting them or serving them?

Sadly, many people perpetuate a cycle of abuse on others, and unfortunately, many of us have experienced bullying tactics in our offices. Many individuals have not taken the time to self-realize, confront their real demons, and too many colleagues come in contact with them and have had to endure their bullying and abuse just about every day of the week.

This Labor Day, take a deep breath and choose to be at peace with yourself and set on your journey to always be that better person, that better colleague. Your attitude can bring healing to your workplace.

  • Choose not to badmouth others.
  • Choose not to revel in your co-worker’s mistakes.
  • Choose not to rejoice in your colleague’s errors.
  • Choose not to humiliate and belittle people you work with.
  • Choose to bring salvation to tough situations, and don’t react adversely blow for blow.
  • Choose to forgive and not harbor grudges.
  • Choose to assist and bring peace to your work environment.

Be the sparkle, be the kindness, in your office.

 

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A Rising Tide Lifts All Boats

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There will be days when you do not want to help others, when you want to keep all your skills and knowledge to yourself. There will be times when you are annoyed or aggravated by a colleague who asks for your help. You may from time to time feel that keeping your working knowledge to yourself, instead of teaching others, will help separate you from the pack.

Working in an office means working collaboratively. When you keep certain information or certain skills to yourself, you may actually be hurting your team and hurting your own positive trajectory!

Assisting a colleague at work should be seen as privilege, a gift and an honor.

It is a privilege because someone else could have been your colleague’s assistant. It is a gift because a certain joy should fill you when imparting knowledge. It is an honor because you should be humbled that you are in a position to assist another.

Instead of hoarding information and skills, why not share that knowledge and allow others to grow? You may be surprised how fulfilling it is to teach and then sit back and witness the fruits of your kind action.

On the flip side, it is important to be aware of how you help others. Are you genuinely helpful or are you expecting reimbursement for your shared time and knowledge? When you help someone, do you do it loudly so that everyone else can hear you, and thus embarrass your colleague? What does it say about you when every time you assist someone, you make it a point to tell everyone in the office and discredit the person who just learned something new from you?

A rising tide lifts all boats.

Remember, you have been in situations where you have needed assistance, too. The knowledge and skills you currently have are hardly innate! You did not just get to where you are now overnight. Many people helped you along your journey. Find it in your heart to show the same grace and mercy to your colleagues in need.

Take great comfort in knowing that when you are able to help a fellow colleague you are helping the whole team. You are helping to create a better work environment for everyone around you – including yourself. Be a beacon of light. Generate positive energy. Empower others to take control of their work and assist others in becoming the guides of their own vessels.

It is a privilege, a gift and an honor to assist another. In the end, you will reap the blessing.

 

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Pop Quiz! How Rich Are You?

Are you ready to learn how rich you really are?! 

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Guess what… I am NOT referring to money! I’m referring to your heart, your spirit, your soul, and your attitude. YES you CAN be supremely RICH in mind, soul, spirit and heart! Let’s take a quick quiz to find out where you stand…

Pop Quiz! (Answer honestly for best results.)

  1. Are you the type of colleague who is always seeking adoration?
    • How far are you willing to go to be adored and worshipped?
  2. Are you the type of colleague who needs validation?
    • How far are you willing to go to be validated?
  3. How many times a day, a week, a month, a year, do these have to occur for you to feel satisfied?
  4. Do you get your high on being the center of attention?
  5. Have you ever thought about how this need affects your colleagues?

Each answer you gave above reflects how rich you are in mind, heart, and soul. How do you feel?

Now take a minute and think: how would your ideal self answer each question? Would the answers change?

How healthy is your spirit? How full is your heart? How whole is your soul? Do you feel that you need a change of attitude? A refilling of your heart? A cleansing of your spirit?

No matter how you answered, know that you are okay. You CAN come to center and move forward with grace and purpose.

Breathe deeply. Channel positivity. Develop a mantra to get you through tough moments. Know that you are worthy in the eyes of God. The rest will follow.

 

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Learning to Flourish in the Dark

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Do you feel like you are able to be your best self at work? The majority of us are working hard to earn a paycheck every two weeks. We strive for our work to feel good. We want to be inspired by positive energy and to be encouraged to perform at our best levels.

However it’s an unfortunate truth that some of us feel that we cannot blossom at our jobs. We don’t feel good. We are surrounded by negative energy. And as for feeling encouraged to work at our best levels? Forget about it!

Instead we are held back by fear. We bring our personal insecurities to the office. We fear another colleague’s judgment. We face bosses who are never satisfied, no matter what we do or how hard we work. We face put downs, cynicism, belittling treatment, and smug looks.

It’s easy to allow such treatment to paralyze. It’s easy to allow others to prevent us from trying our best and putting our best face forward. How can we be expected to flourish in a place of darkness? By shining our own brilliant light!

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” -Eleanor Roosevelt

The hard truth is that we need these chiselers in our life to help shape us into becoming the best version of ourselves. We will never reach our potential and we will never maximize our true abilities unless we face hardships. We CAN overcome the naysayers, the grouches, the mean-spirited. Slowly, steadily, but surely we can begin to flourish and create our own positive energy to push us through.

Reflect, breathe deep, and perform like never before!

Be a winner. Overcome fear. Soar on your job.

You CAN do this. 

Need more encouragement? 

 

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Let’s Stop Hating What We Do Not Understand

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I have always wondered why many of us hate what we don’t know or don’t even understand. Sometimes we look at other people and just hate them. It’s an impulse that simply feeds negativity and bad energy. Instead, I wish for us all, myself included, to just learn to give joy, peace and love to each other, and in times when we cannot bring ourselves to do so, that we walk away and just leave things well alone.

If we cannot understand why a colleague is different, thinks differently, acts differently from us, and does not talk or walk the way we want, does that warrant hate, gossip and put down?

Just as we feel the right to be who we are, so they feel that  they have the right to be who they are, too.

I mean, don’t we all have work to do? Aren’t there more important things to spend our precious time and energy on other than bickering, complaining, and psychoanalyzing each other? Wouldn’t our time be much better spent taking the time to know a little more about each other?

None of us have walked in another’s shoes so what do we really know? What are we really hating here and how do we hate someone we don’t even know? What does that say about us?

This week, cleanse yourself of the negative, hateful views you harbor of just one person and try instead to look at them in a brighter, more positive light. Do your best to soften negative impulses or jumping to negative conclusions about a person’s character. Let me know how it goes!

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Celebrating Labor Day

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Today is Labor Day. While many of us are enjoying spending time with our families and our friends and rejoicing in having a day off from work, it has me thinking about our work lives.

We all need money; we all need to earnestly earn it. We stay on our jobs because we have mouths to feed, mortgage and rent to pay, lights and heat to keep on. We work to keep ourselves and our families safe and healthy. Those who call the shots and have the power to cut the checks know the challenges that we all face but oftentimes we are treated as if we are merely expendable. As if we are one in a rotation of individuals who circle in and out of our particular positions. This can be a tough pill to swallow.

More so, some of us have colleagues who feel as if it is part of their job responsibilities to rip us and fellow colleagues apart with their tongues, even though they have no knowledge about our personal life and have never walked in our shoes.

I believe that despite how we have been trained by society and how we are being treated in our work environments, being kind, being slow to argue, and refraining from delivering sharp retorts does not mean that you are docile or a rug to be walked over! In fact, having the strength to stand strong, stand quiet, and evaluate the situation for what it really is — that is where power lies. Quiet Power, Peaceful Confidence is not an easy stance to take, but with patience, practice, and perseverance, we can all work towards becoming our best selves.

Make a commitment to return to work this week with a refreshed and balanced head on your shoulders and the strength to stand above the gossip, above the petty arguments. This week, focus on doing your work the best you can. Help your colleagues in a positive, calm, and efficient manner. Support your bosses and embrace the point of view that you are working with them for a common cause.

We all must walk through the fire from time to time, are you strong enough to walk to the other side?

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