Tag: #Self-discovery

Painting the Canvas of Our Lives


If we were given blank canvases and we were asked to paint our lives thus far, including everything that we can remember and of course, the things that we do not want to remember, what would the canvas of our lives look like? Begin to imagine what that would look like. Which colors would end up on the canvas of our lives, what shades, which dark colors, which bright colors, would end up on our individual canvases? If we were asked to paint the canvas of our lives today, right this moment, which colors would we start with, which colors would we joyfully paint, which colors would we cringe and wince from painting? Which colors would make us want to continue painting, which ones would make us want to stop painting?

I wonder if anyone’s canvas would be filled with only bright colors. I highly doubt that, but I could be wrong.  I know for a fact that mine would not be. Mine would have not only dark and bright colors put on me by others, but also dark and bright colors put on me by my choices and decisions in life. Mine would have not only dark and bright colors, and colors in between, but would also have different textures and many different shades. What would your canvas look like, what would it feel like?

There are some colors we would enjoy and lovingly paint on our life’s canvas, but there are others we would rather not remember, and rather not acknowledge and paint, because just the thought of them hurts too much. However, maybe, if we do find the courage to paint them onto our canvases, we will find some healing, and start the beginning of a new and fulfilled life, because we have finally chosen to face those demons and gotten them out either completely with one stroke, or little by little, with one stroke at a time.

My two cents on this matter is to keep on painting, every second, every hour, every day, every week, every month and every year. Keep on painting until you weep, until you burst into joy. Keep on painting no matter how rough, no matter how liberating, because there is more paint coming your way, every day, and your canvas of life will only become bigger and bigger, as your colors flow from within. Keep on painting until you find your direction in life, until that direction leads you into purpose. Keep on painting until you find yourself becoming more and more enlightened, and finding the boldness to find, build and fulfill your purpose.

What does the canvas of your life look like so far? No matter how rough or beautiful your life’s canvas becomes, don’t stop painting, because there is always more paint leading you to a larger and bigger purpose.


A Journey of Self-discovery


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Do not allow fear to make you become or act like anyone else but your better self.

Know that there is more to you than fear. Take a deep breath, have integrity and focus on recreating yourself and building yourself into Quiet Power, Peaceful Confidence.

Quiet Power is not in the noise, the loudness, rudeness or meanness. It is not in the empty vessels and clanging cymbals making the loudest sound. Peaceful Confidence is the gift that comes when you purposely make the choice to point fingers at yourself and not at others and make a purposeful decision to work on your own inner person and outward character. That is personal integrity: when no one is watching, when you are not trying to impress anyone, are alone in your own quiet space, you make the decision to change within and outwardly do things for the better.

Get into the root of what you have become and make that change.

Remember that those tough, challenging moments are training grounds for you to see your weaknesses in character and in your personal integrity. They are here to urge you to take responsibility and make a change within.

The tough moments, if you allow them to do so, will shape you, anchor you and support you in making a decision to fix things in a way that will enhance your life and that of others.


Your Gift of Personal Truth and Personal Freedom

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In your journey to believing in yourself and who you are, have your own tangible experience about yourself. In your journey to loving yourself, have the courage to look in the mirror to see who you have really become. Is that who you truly are? Or is there a greater and better you? Are you able to face what the mirror is telling you? Can you accept that truth and keep what is to be kept, and do away with what needs to be done away with? It’s very hard, it’s very painful, I know. I have had my own, still having my own, tangible experience in dealing with what I have become and who I should become. But the knowledge of knowing that I am better is powerful; in the truest sense!

So who should you become? Give yourself the gift of personal truth. Don’t be superficial, be very honest, genuine and authentic about it.   

“Your goal here is to to develop a strong, solid foundation for your heart, soul, spirit and mind.” ~The Reminder: Your Personal Workbook and Journal for Success

Do not shy away from yourself. It’s okay, it’s just you and yourself, nobody else is watching. This is your personal moment of truth. In order to set yourself free, you must be honest with yourself.

“It is very important that you know for yourself, how valuable and precious you truly are. Stop waiting for external affirmation and love, instead, allow your inner self-affirmation to give you real self-confidence. Others can only do so much for you. At the end of the day, it is in your own hands to become the best that you can ever be. ”  ~The Reminder: Your Personal Workbook and Journal for Success

At the end of the day you make the choices and decisions which you have to live with. So cry and scream if you must, even get angry, but no pity party here! Face yourself! Do not be a victim, do not blame, do not point fingers, but instead, hold yourself accountable. Yes, I know, it is very difficult, but refuse to become a victim of your past mistakes or of any maltreatment that you have suffered in the hands of other people. The primary goal here is for you to set yourself free!

“You have the power to do so yourself by looking inward and making that determined decision to turn your life around. The goal here is to assist you in facing your pain and refusing to allow it to consume you.” ~The Reminder: Your Personal Workbook and Journal for Success

Look in the mirror and ask yourself:

  • Who am I?
  • Who have I become?
  • Why do I do what I do?
  • Why do I make the choices I make?
  • Are they what I really want for my life?
  • Are they really what I want to do and who I want to be?
  • Am I where I want to be?
  • If not, what am I going to do about it?

“How can you possibly make the right decisions for your life, if you do not know who you truly are? It is one thing to think you know who you are, but it is entirely another to actually know who you are!”  ~The Reminder: Your Personal Workbook and Journal for Success

Have your moment of honesty, make your own determined decisions and choices, and live your own tangible experiences in life. Find out, figure out, who you really should be. Find purpose. You deserve that! Give yourself that gift!

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Power to Let Go and Take Off!


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We are looking for power somewhere out there, yet there is power that resides within us, unknown, ignored, unexamined, and unused. There is innate power within us to take off from and leave behind all that holds and weighs us down! But we tap into everything else, except this power. We tap into people around us, into family, friends, colleagues, acquaintances and the latest trends. We tap into drugs, technology, our own devices, schemes, and human intelligence. We tap into anything and everything except the power that saw fit to make us the unique, special, valuable, and precious souls we are. I do not know about you, but I found the things and people I tapped into to be lacking, limiting, and limited!

I blame no one. People can only do so much. We are all limited some way or the other.  But I just needed something deeper and more meaningful in order to find that inner peace, wisdom, faith, purpose and power to maximize my potentials. I needed something, someone that was unlimited and non-superficial. As for me, I found it in the One, and still find it in Him. This One I talk about is the living God.

Let me ask you:

  • Who or what is the weight that is holding you back from taking off into your purpose and destiny?
  • Who or what do you turn to for healing from your deep emotional, mental and spiritual pain?
  • Who or What do you turn to when you feel completely lost?
  • Who or what do you depend upon for self-worth, self-respect and self-dignity?
  • Who and what do you turn to find your purpose and soar with it?

Who or what is standing in your way, pulling you down and holding you back? Do you need power to let go and take off? As humans, we are usually afraid of what we do not know. Many of us have been fooled, tricked, and lied to, and this has made us downcast and disenchanted. But let me boldly submit to you that I believe that we are created with incredible power and divine ability called dunamis. I believe that we carry dunamis within us but we have not exercised this power either out of ignorance and we do not know of its existence, or because we continually reject the One who created us and installed dunamis within us, thus only He can trigger and cultivate it in us. He needs our cooperation to do so, but we either deny His existence, or we know He exists but we decide that we do not need Him in order to thrive and rise above the ordinary and the things that keep us emotionally, mentally and spiritually trapped and damaged.

My take is that dunamis is miraculous power beyond our imagination, but not impossible to attain and live by.  Dunamis is stunning and potent. That is why it appears unattainable! It truly is unattainable through our human strength, wisdom, or knowledge, but highly attainable through God’s divine direction, courage, boldness and wisdom. I do not know about you, but I found the things and people I tapped into to be lacking, limiting, and limited! I blame no one. People can only do so much. I just needed something deeper and more meaningful in order to find that inner peace and purpose. As for me, I found it in the living God, and still find it in Him. What and who do you tap into? Is it really working for you and making you whole?

I want people to know that yes, we can cry, but we have power! We have been put down, but we have power! We have been violated in more ways than one, many times over, but we have power! Downtrodden, but we have power! Messed up, feeling guilty and ashamed, but we have power! We’ve been stigmatized, abused, maltreated, dismissed, mocked, and left for dead, but we have power. We are depressed and suicidal but we have power! The problem is that we have not tapped into it. We have no knowledge of it. We do not seek it. It is lying dormant in us every day, we have absolute access to it, but we will do not acknowledge its Source, the living God.

This living God and power I am telling you about are no lie, no gimmick. Why don’t you do the research yourself, investigate, find out, and explore for yourself. You do not have to believe me at all [in fact, feel free to think I am crazy].  Challenge yourself to take the step to do the research. I would be interested in your findings and your conclusions. Genuinely search deeply, dig deep, and do your legwork, don’t be dismissive about this life-giving power.

Find out about God’s existence, and the manner in which He has divinely built, crafted and created us. It is unfathomable by the ordinary human eye. Our carnal state cannot comprehend it. But if we tap into God we will find it, and we will know how to excel and soar with it. What harm would it do you to ask if God is real and if indeed you are created with such immeasurable divine power?

The choice is, and always will be yours to tap into God and dunamis, or not.  We can laugh about it, mock it, deny its existence, or realize and understand that there is real, genuine power within us, and it comes from Him.

Why don’t you find out about the divine power that you are really made of and fulfill your purpose?

That your faith might not rest in the wisdom of men but in the power of God.

– 1 Corinthians 2:5 (ESV)



Is Your Ship Slowly Sinking?

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Is your ship slowly sinking? There is more to people than meets the eye. I truly believe that we have been created with divine power and abilities. I strongly believe that we were created with innate power, strength, and skills which we have not tapped into, but merely scraped the surface. I believe that we have been created and endowed with many gifts and talents, as well as tremendous power, and that we are supposed to be divine masterpieces, created only by God. I also believe, and know, that I have had snippets of divine experiences that have brought me to that undeniable, tangible truth, truth that we possess not just amazing talents, but inexplicable power residing within us.

I am curious about this power. Shouldn’t you be? I have had glimpses of it, I have experienced such power, and I feel a sense of responsibility to write about this truth. It is an honor to write and tell you about it, with the goal that we all know that we can all experience the reality and the truth about the living God. I believe that we should share this knowledge that can and will liberate us and others from their pain, trauma, depression, and any other form or type of bondage. I believe that I have discovered a true power that can free us, that is uncommon and untapped, and that many are ignorant about, and I cannot possibly keep it to myself!

Is your ship slowly sinking? So many of us want to be set free from our shackles, our vices, our insecurities, and the things that easily weigh us down, paralyzing us from fulfilling all our potential and using our talents and abilities.

Many of us want to love and be loved, filled with a surplus of joy and indescribable peace. Deep down, we want to be rescued from our own self-destructive behaviors. We want to be set free from the damage caused by rejection, violation, stigma, prejudice, and put-downs that have been inflicted by the hands of others.

We have tried so many avenues, and some even appear to work for a while, but then we find ourselves searching again for the next new solution to our problems. I would like to share with you a consistent power, one that you already possess and carry within you.

  • Is your ship slowly sinking?
  • Have you become your worst enemy?
  • Can you stop the sickness taking you over?
  • Do you need power to do so?
  • Do you need a savior who will take you over the walls and heal your pain?
  • Do you need someone who will not let you go, but will fight for your life?

“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him.

-John 3:16-17




Divinely Created Beyond a Theory?

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We always ask whether or not we should believe in the existence of God, but do we ever ask whether or not God believes in us? Is it possible that no matter what we feel or think about Him, God loves us so much that whether or not we believe in Him, whether or not anybody believes in us, and even if we don’t believe in ourselves, He does?

Despite what we have been told, what we have been taught, and what evil people have done in His name, I do not believe that He is so insecure and controlling, needing to criticize, punish, and judge us at every turn, or scheming to slice us into pieces and beat us into a condemned pulp. No, He wants us to use the indescribable power He has generously created within us to elevate ourselves and take flight into our purpose and destiny. He basks in our successes! He glories in our victories, and rejoices in our deliverance, and hurts when we hurt.

The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly. John 10:10 (ESV)

I believe that God created us, that we are His divine products, so of course He believes in us, because  when He created us, He did not leave us hanging. He put everything we will ever need to succeed, right inside of us but we have to tune Him in. This way, we can live a life of dominion over the demons, the vices, heartbreak, depression, tragedies, trauma and discouragement that torment, entrap and imprison us. They have weakened and impeded us, and most of us have succumbed to their weight, darkness and misery.

By faith we understand that the universe was created by the word of God, so that what is seen was not made out of things that are visible. -Hebrews 11:3 (ESV)

Think about it this way. Manufacturers create products all the time, with all the correct and necessary parts, and confidently promote and sell these products. These products are just things, perishable, material things that come with guarantees, but also warranties and disclaimers. Wow! But we believe them, we believe in the products, and we pay to acquire them. If we can believe in products made by humanity, knowing that they are not flawless, how much more should we believe in a God who declares that He has created us fearfully and wonderfully! Should we not allow the power of this God to enter our spirits, and allow His glory to light our way so we can take off, not from the ordinary man-made path of life, but from His extraordinary divine power, assisting us in taking flight into meaningful purpose and a sure destiny?

What would life be like if we let His faith in us be our heartbeat? What if we tested Him out and we saw ourselves through His eyes and through His blueprint for each of us? What if we allowed His hope for us, His faith in us, be our fuel to be the best that we can ever be, maximizing every potential? What could be so bad about believing in such a God? What is it that is so hateful about Him who gives life, who shows us a way when situations become terrifying, tough, difficult to endure, and seemingly impossible? What is it about us that is turned off by a God who does not want us to give up on ourselves?

Maybe we are afraid to believe that He exists and maybe we cannot fathom that such a divine being actually believes in us, because in our limited human capacity we cannot contain that belief, because all we see are our imperfections, our fears, anxieties, anger and depression.  Maybe we are unable to process the thought that God believes in us? Maybe we are incapable of seeing how precious, valuable and priceless we are in His eyes.

Then the Lord God formed the man of dust from the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living creature. -Genesis 2:7 (ESV)

Is our limited human and carnal nature all we are or is there more to us?

Wouldn’t it be wise to investigate and explore if we are indeed divinely created and therefore born with such life-giving, life-empowering, problem-conquering, victorious-living power? It’s always our choice to do the research.

I don’t believe that we are mere theories and guinea pigs to and of science and intellect.  I believe that we are created way beyond that. We have evolved in so many ways than one, but it does not remove the truth that we are created by God.

Maybe its time for you to find out!




What Lies Within and At What Cost?


Look within, and think for a minute. Imagine that you have a camera that could click and capture every thought, every image of who you have become, click by click. What would be the result? What would actually be captured? What would each image portray? What would they convey?

You deserve to give yourself, what I call, the gift of looking within.It is the practice of asking yourself the honest questions, the ones that really matter. It is the art of making and taking the time to deeply think on them.  It is having the courage and humility to face your true answers.

Only you can do this for yourself! Nobody else can or should. It is one of the best, if not the best thing, you will ever do for, and in, your life. Face yourself!

  • Define who you have become.
  • Describe who you would like to be as a person.
  • Think about what has stopped you from becoming that person.
  • Do you know your purpose in life? Describe It.
  • If you have never thought about it, think on it now.
  • Does anything come to mind?
  • What are you going to do about it? 

Use these questions to guide you as you inwardly reflect and make the choice to genuinely look at the images within you. Meditate on these very simple, yet very relevant questions, until you come to terms with what and who you have become. What do you see? The end result should hopefully be that you summon up the quiet determination to become who you really should be, and not who you think you should be, created in the image of God. How wonderful. How beautiful. How brilliant. How magnificent.

Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. And we all having been unveiled in face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image, from glory to glory, even as from the Lord, the Spirit. ~ 2 Corinthians 3:17-18 (Berean Literal Bible)

At the end of the day, we will have to find a moment in our lives when we make a decision about what type of person we are, who we have become and will become, and at what cost.  ~The Reminder: Quiet Power, Peaceful Confidence

The practice of looking within, searching within, is the gift that you give yourself. No one else can do that for you, no one else is responsible for that.

 Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes. -Carl Jung



Our Soul, Stronger Than Our Surroundings


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What type of surrounding, atmosphere and environment do we constantly find ourselves in?

  • Are we surrounded by people who abuse and stigmatize us?
  • Are we around people who constantly berate us, talk to us like we are worth nothing?
  • Are we surrounded by prejudice, chaos, violence, torment and trauma filling us with deep anger, steeping us in dark depression, and incapacitating our gifts and potentials?
  • Are we swamped with life’s challenges and drowning in and from our own mistakes?

Do we want to be set free? Do we know that we are created with POWER to rise above the storms, but most of us don’t realize it! We are not taught to believe that, and in the course of time, we lose sight of it completely! Time out! Time to dig deep and defeat what is damaging us.

                                                                   Time to self-e-VALUE-ate!

                                                                    Time to em-POWER!

                                                                    Time to re-DISCOVER!

                                                                    Time to re-BIRTH!

Sadly, many of us cannot properly function and blossom because of our fear, pain, depression and anxiety. We rarely confront their roots and origin because that exercise is extremely agonizing! The pain to admit certain things to ourselves is too raw and shocking; the shame we carry is too daunting, and we take them with us everywhere we go.  We might hide behind masks and facades but subconsciously they affect how we treat ourselves, family, friends, colleagues and strangers. To cover up, we act like we have all the answers and all the know how to everything.  In an attempt to hide the emptiness, darkness and torment that lies within, we sometimes become too loud or too closed up, and we sometimes degrade others in order to feel powerful and in charge.

Yes, the majority of us have all experienced and been surrounded by self-inflicted, and agonizing moments with family, colleagues, friends, past relationship, acquaintances and even strangers, and these experiences have left us deflated, wounded, scarred, broken and shattered.  But what matters now is what are we going to do about it? Do we value ourselves enough to fight for our life and conquer what torments us? What will we choose, succumb, remain in our shackles, or fight for our freedom? We can make a determined choice to rise above it all, or allow it to consume, degenerate, and destroy us.  We can allow fear, shame and maltreatment to clip our wings, never spread them, and never reach the best of our potential or ever maximize our true abilities.  Or we can simply say, ENOUGH!

We are stronger than we believe, or are made to believe! Should we deny ourselves the right and liberty to heal and be whole?  It takes one disciplined, mind changing, life changing decision! Let’s take some time out; take our eyes off what others are doing to us, or what has been done to us in the past. Let’s muster the courage to NOT succumb. WE DO NOT HAVE TO!

“Strive to make the brave choice.  Look at the root of the problems and troubles and torment raging within you.  Take your eyes off what others are doing to you and focus on cleaning yourself up and growing beautifully.” ~ The Reminder

We are worth it, but the decision is, and will always be, ours to make. We can choose to be shattered or be made whole, be bruised or healed, drown or soar! Which will it be?

Remember, “The soul is stronger than its surroundings.”  ~William James





One Important Breath From It All

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“If I take that one deep breath, walk away for a minute, a day, a week, (dependent upon how deep the cut and how emotional I feel), I will find the strength, the peace, and the wisdom to handle the situation or person more appropriately.

A positive, mature, and constructive response comes with a lot of practice and an attitude that is always less on the defensive.”  ~The Reminder