A Priceless Mindset

She showed me what real change is, and it was not money, it was something more, it was priceless. It was a renewed state of mind that gave me good character and a healthy way of thinking and processing my thoughts and behavior. It gave me sheer joy and peace because it helped treat myself and others better.

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My mother not only taught me in words, but also in deeds. There were times when she did not take my side on certain painful issues or when I thought she was too strict but now I cannot thank her enough for how she raised me and for being who she is and setting an example while I was growing up. I have sustained many challenges because of her upbringing and teachings, her outlook on life and how to walk with diverse people of different personality types. She would handle everyone individually and uniquely depending on their personality type, but always with respect. It was not a cookie cutter approach. Looking back now, I realize that as diverse as the individuals were, and as differently as she walked with them depending on who they were, two things remained consistent: she did not change her character to suit someone else because they were uncomfortable with her, and her level of patience with each person and her tenacity to love them would not be eroded by conflicting personalities. I cannot for a single moment recall her ever taking her personal challenges or pain out on other people. Instead I constantly observed her acts of kindness, patience and service towards other people, and listened to her give reasons as to why people are the way they are, affirming we should always endeavor to have a good heart and treat people decently. As a youth (and even as an adult) when I was frustrated or angry with someone, she would always remind me to think about the human factor and not take the person too seriously, because who knows what their problems are and what troubles and torments them within ? Who knows what damage and demons they carry? ~ The Reminder: Quiet Power, Peaceful Confidence

She does not have billions in her bank account but she is free of anger, hatred and bitterness. She is rich.

When I was younger her approach did not make sense to me. When I complained about the way someone treated me, she would brush it off and tell me not to feed into it or pay it any mind, when what I really wanted to do was confront the individual. Sometimes it hurt to apply her approach; it felt like I was letting people take advantage of me. But every time I applied it, I became a stronger and better person. Slowly, applying her approach made it easier to ignore what needed to be ignored, to be forgiving, to keep my heart free of any grudge, anger or hatred, and to just not feed into other people’s negativity. I worked on making greater efforts to be kind, peaceful and more understanding. When I realized that her approach added more to my life and it didn’t reduce me to a doormat or a bully, I fully embraced it. I realized that Mother had uncommon patience but was nobody’s doormat. She had the strength to not allow the blows others dealt to turn her into a mean, bitter, and depressed person. Even now after all these years, her constant advice is to cool it, take it easy, and avoid instant anger. Her theory is that it is not worth the long-term effects. Instead it is more essential to think things through before taking action and dealing with the person(s) I feel offended by. She does not use the exact term “take a deep breath,” but it is the same approach and advice. She does not have billions in her bank account but she is free of anger, hatred and bitterness. She is rich. ~ The Reminder: Quiet Power, Peaceful Confidence

She raised me and changed my mindset, the type of change that money cannot buy, the type of change that will last me a life time, assisting not just me, but humanity.

Romans 12:2 New International Version (NIV)

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

What or who influences your mind, your heart, your soul, your spirit?






The Last of Human Freedoms


Let’s ask ourselves the real questions, I mean, the honest questions.  The ones that make us very uncomfortable, the ones that force us to look in the mirror and our reflection is not what we want to see, but the truth cannot be denied.  Let’s rethink finger-pointing and instead self-examine, and take our eyes off other colleagues, family, friends and strangers, and really look at ourselves from within.

What does our reflection reveal about our mindset? What does it tell us about how we view other people? Are we blinded by myopia, and darkened by closed mindedness? Does our reflection show us that we have lost sight of other people’s humanity? Does it tell us that we believe that we are better than other people, especially those who don’t look and talk like us, who may not be as educated, whose job titles, financial and social status do not match ours?

                                                   Every soul is priceless and precious!

As the world gets harsher, meaner and more ruthless, what choices are we going to make, what attitudes are we going to cultivate?

  • Continue holding on to our destructive and damaging mindsets, or are we going to pursue purpose and destiny that will liberate us and others?
  • Be stuck in our own insecurities, bubbles and walls, or are we going to grow, spread our wings and endeavor to assist in bringing humanity to all?
  • Impede other people’s goals, destroy their peace of mind, add to their own existing pain, contribute to their misery, or will we aide them, buoy them up and support them? 

Must we all keep paying the price for our negative mindsets and the way we have been conditioned?  We CAN choose to change our attitudes and lend a kind hand, say something uplifting, champion others on, nurture and harness them, instead of hindering and obstructing their professional and personal growth.

Regardless of who we are, or where we come from, we are all people, each one of us special, valuable and precious, and do not deserve any form of abuse, or denial to be the best that we can be.  

It is no easy feat, it takes guts, but we can will and make the choice to reach deep into the core of our being and develop a mindset that builds, not destroys. We can develop a beautiful attitude, and act better towards family, colleagues, friends and even strangers.  It is our right, and our freedom to do so!

“The last of human freedoms – the ability to choose one’s attitude in a given set of circumstances.” ~Viktor E. Frankl